In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman speaks with couples and sex therapist Dr. Emily Jamea about her new book, ‘Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion.’ They discuss the concept of achieving a flow state during sex, which involves being so fully absorbed in the moment that time seems to disappear and there’s a profound connection with one’s partner. Emily shares insights from her research, including the importance of curiosity, adapting to life’s challenges, and maintaining emotional intimacy. She also emphasizes that this state is accessible to everyone, regardless of age or physical condition, as long as both partners are equally committed. Additionally, the episode covers practices for individuals to explore their own sexuality and ways to integrate small, novel changes to enhance sexual experiences.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
00:52 Meet Emily Jamea: Author and Sex Therapist
01:03 Exploring the Concept of Flow in Sex
01:54 The Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets
04:37 Research Findings on Flow and Sexual Satisfaction
06:38 Practical Tips for Achieving Flow State
09:16 The Role of Emotional Intimacy and Vulnerability
12:26 Flow State Beyond the Honeymoon Phase
22:52 Applying Flow State Principles to Self-Pleasure
26:00 Conclusion and Where to Find More
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Bio:
Dr. Emily Jamea is an award-winning sex and relationship therapist and USA Today best-selling author of Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion.
Emily speaks nationally and internationally to a diverse range of audiences including educators, health and mental health professionals, executive and corporate groups, and the general public. Her expertise has been featured in Oprah Magazine, CNN, USA Today, NBC, and more. She offers online workshops as part of her mission to make her knowledge accessible to everyone. Dr. Jamea is an award-winning columnist for Healthy Women. She hosts the Love and Libido podcast and writes for Psychology Today. She posts across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea.
In her free time, Emily enjoys spending time with her husband and children, traveling as much as possible, and salsa dancing and painting when she gets the chance.