In this episode of Better Sex, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman critiques the traditional sensate focus technique frequently recommended in sex therapy. She outlines her concerns about its sequential, goal-oriented nature, the problematic idea of doing things to a passive partner, and the lack of emphasis on pleasure. Jessa shares her alternative approach, which focuses on pleasure and connection through exercises where the receiving partner is in control, and highlights the importance of mutual desire and advocacy in intimate relationships.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
00:44 Critique of Sensate Focus
01:49 Problems with Sensate Focus
04:47 Alternative Approaches to Intimacy
07:07 Conclusion and Listener Engagement