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Episode List

Still struggling with mismatched sex drives?

Differences in desire are universal. Think about it - why would any two people want exactly the same amount of sex? At least over time. So believe it or not, your mismatched libidos don't have to cause a problem. But it becomes a problem for so many people because of...

Why some people regret scheduled sex

Scheduling sex is one of the worst pieces of advice people get. And it's going to make sense to you why this is by the end of this post. Now, I'll tell you that if scheduling sex fixes your problem, if that's all it takes to make you and your partner both happy, then...

How to tap into your partner’s responsive desire

What if I told you that it’s possible for someone to want physical intimacy when they haven’t felt desire in a long time? This is because there are two types of desire, and one of them is hidden (responsive desire). Most people don’t know about the hidden kind, and...

Why won’t my partner have sex with me?

What if I told you someone can go from zero libido to wanting sex again? I have worked with hundreds and hundreds of couples with desire discrepancy. And often, the "lower desire partner" has little to no libido. Both people think that's just the way it is. And I...

Why does my partner avoid intimacy?

Why do so many people start to avoid intimacy or sex? It actually makes perfect sense when you understand what's going on. And once you do, you can change it. I coined the term "sexual avoidance cycle" because I saw that pattern with client after client. Here's what...

Sexless marriage or headed that way?

If you’re in an otherwise pretty happy relationship, but you're in a sexless marriage or relationship (or worried you'll end up there), despite your best effort to talk to your partner about it, schedule sex, or plan more dates, I'd like to show you how to get your...

#224 – Pregnancy and Postpartum Challenges for Sex – Paula Leech

Listen to "224: Pregnancy and Postpartum Challenges for Sex – Paula Leech" Paula Leech  Pregnancy and Postpartum Challenges for Sex  In the quest to know the various kinds of things that get in the way of sexual desire, sex therapist Paula Leech walks us through two...

#223 – Premature Ejaculation – Keeley Rankin

Listen to "223: Premature Ejaculation – Keeley Rankin"   Premature Ejaculation  Keeley Rankin joins me in a conversation to talk about solutions for Premature Ejaculation. She talks about the anxiety attached to this problem, various approaches and why they don’t...

#222 – Testosterone for Women – Dr. Matt Chalmers

Listen to "222: Testosterone for Women – Dr. Matt Chalmers"   Testosterone for Women  This episode talks about hormones and how it affects sexual function and overall health of women in particular. Dr. Matt Chalmers explains two primary hormones in women,...

#221 – Sexual Communication – Dr. Tara

Listen to "221: Sexual Communication – Dr. Tara"   Sexual Communication  Do you know the real secret to having an amazing sex life? After years of research and talking to thousands of respondents, Dr. Tara might have unlocked the answer to that big question....

#220 – Body Freedom – Elizabeth Dall

Listen to "220: Body Freedom – Elizabeth Dall" Body Freedom  Elizabeth Dall talks about “body freedom,” the antidote to body shame and self-consciousness that many of us, if not all, experience at some point in our life. Body image issues affect mostly women and are...

#219 – No, this is not your soul mate – Tracy Crossley

Listen to "219: No, this is not your soul mate – Tracy Crossley" This is not your soul mate  How we were raised as kids, how consistent our parents (or caretakers) were, and how safe and loved we felt when we were young can shape our attachment style during our...

#218 [Personal Story] A Journey Through Miscarriage – Jessica

Listen to "218: [Personal Story] A Journey Through Miscarriage – Jessica" A Journey Through Miscarriage  This episode talks about a very sensitive topic – miscarriage. Losing a baby is heartbreaking, no matter when it happens, and Jessica bravely shares her experience...

#217 – Overcoming Anger and Resentment – Rich Heller

Listen to "217: Overcoming Anger and Resentment – Rich Heller" Rich Heller  Overcoming Anger and Resentment  “Conflict Coach” Rich Heller enlightens us on resentment, anger, and other negativities that couples can get into that can get in the way of their sex life. If...

#216 – Co-Creating a Sex Life Over Time – Chelsea Wakefield

Listen to "216: Co-Creating a Sex Life Over Time – Chelsea Wakefield" Chelsea Wakefield  Co-Creating a Sex Life Over Time  What does it really take to make a sex life last? How do archetypes about sex, expectations, and love capacities all come together to be a...

#215 – The Wonderful World of Sex Toys – Searah Deysach

Listen to "215: The Wonderful World of Sex Toys – Searah Deysach" The World of Sex Toys  Sex educator, Searah Deysach, takes us to the fun and playful world of sex toys. Founder and owner of Early to Bed, Chicago’s first woman-owned sex shop that sells high-quality...

#214 – Self-Leadership and Erotic Rope Play – Edward Willey

Listen to "214: Self-Leadership and Erotic Rope Play – Edward Willey" Erotic Rope Play as Self Leadership and Intimacy  Edward Willey talks about his seemingly two separate interests and pursuits – rope play and self-leadership – and his ingenious idea of combining...

#213 – Shameless Parenting – Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers

Listen to "213: Shameless Parenting – Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers" Shameless Parenting  Many parents find normal sex behavior and development confusing. Parents often wonder if their child’s sexual behavior is normal. Certified sex therapist Dr. Tina Sellers talks about...

#212 – Performance Anxiety – David Khalili

Listen to "212: Performance Anxiety – David Khalili" David Khalili  Performance Anxiety  Feeling anxious before sex is normal. But how about feeling nervous that you cannot have or enjoy sex for fear that you will be unable to “perform” during sexual activities? Sex...

#211 – Juicing up Your Sex Life – Alicia Davon

Listen to "211: Juicing up Your Sex Life – Alicia Davon" Alicia Davon  Juicing Up Your Sex Life  A fun topic today. This one's about juicing up your relationship, enlivening it again. Or if you're single, preparing for when you are in a relationship. My guest is...

#209 – Pleasure beyond your comfort zone – Court Vox

Listen to "209: Right Outside Your Comfort Zone – Court Vox" Pleasure beyond your comfort zone  Somatic sex educator and sex coach Court Vox helps his clients to find the ‘sweet spot’ in their sex lives, and life in general. The sweet spot is a place that can be...

#208 – Endometriosis – Dr. Allyson Shrikhande 

Listen to "208: Endometriosis – Dr. Allyson Shrikhande" Endometriosis  Dr. Allyson Shrikhande, a rehabilitation doctor who specializes in pelvic rehabilitation medicine, gives us an in-depth discussion about endometriosis. What is endometriosis, the disorder affecting...

#207 – Hookup Without Heartbreak – Lia Holmgren

Listen to "207: Hookup Without Heartbreak – Lia Holmgren" Hookup without Heartbreak  Intimacy and relationship coach Lia Holmgren’s new book, Hookup Without Heartbreak, teaches women to let go of negative feelings after casual hook ups/sex, as well as how to reclaim...

#206 – Vaginal Rejuvenation – Dr. Kanwal Bawa

Listen to "206: Vaginal Rejuvenation with Dr. Kanwal Bawa" Vaginal Rejuvenation  Dr. Kanwal Bawa talks about sexual health and wellness, particularly vaginal rejuvenation, to improve relationships and the sexual experience. Known as ‘Dr. Sex Fairy’ due to her...

#205 – Sex as a Widow – Krista St-Germain

Listen to "205: Sex as a Widow – Krista St-Germain" Sex as a Widow  Master Certified Life Coach, Krista St-Germain, gives advice on how to deal with grief after losing a life partner. In this episode, we will talk about sex after loss and how it fits into the grieving...

#203 – Why Selfish is Good for Sex – Dr. Laura Dabney

Listen to "203: Why Selfish is Good for Sex – Dr. Laura Dabney" Dr. Laura Dabney  Why Selfish is Good for Sex  In this episode, Dr Laura Dabney explains the importance of selfishness in a relationship. Despite its negative connotation, being selfish can actually make...

#202 – Dates & Mates – Damona Hoffman

Listen to "202: Dates & Mates – Damona Hoffman" Dates and Mates  In this episode, we take a closer look at the exciting world of dating – from using different dating apps to tackling difficult conversations and navigating the dating scene amid a pandemic. Life and...

#201 – Barriers to Female Sexual Pleasure – Kristine D’Angelo

Listen to "201: Barriers to Female Sexual Pleasure – Kristine D’Angelo" Barriers to Female Sexual Pleasure  Certified sex coach Kristine D’Angelo talks about pleasure and feeling empowered when it comes to sex, especially for vagina owners. Conversationally, she...

#200 – Sex & Veterans – Asya Brodsky

Listen to "200: Sex and Veterans – Asya Brodsky" Sex & Veterans  In this episode, Asya Brodsky gives insight into sexual issues and concerns with veterans. From injuries, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or military sexual trauma (MST), Brodsky explains how...

#199 – Cross Dressing – Dr. Carol Clark

Listen to "199: Cross Dressing – Dr. Carol Clark" Cross Dressing  In this fascinating episode, board certified sex therapist and addictions counselor Dr. Carol Clark helps us demystify the concept of cross dressing and take away the stigma and shame commonly...

#198 – Racism and Sexual Health – Kristian Holmes

Listen to "198 – Racism and Sexual Health – Kristian Holmes" Racism and Sexual Health  In this episode we talk to Kristian Holmes, a therapist who is a person of color. We dive deep into racism and emotional and mental health, especially for people of color and/or...

#197 – Guided by Glow – Sayra Player

Listen to "197: Guided by Glow – Sayra Player" Actress Sayra Player takes us into a different level of meditation. We discuss tapping into our imagination to inspire creativity with masturbation and getting in touch with our body and sensations. Along with a team of...

#196 – Bodyfullness – Dr. Rachel Allyn

Listen to "196: Bodyfullness – Dr. Rachel Allyn" In this episode, Dr. Rachel Allyn, a holistic psychologist, and pleasure expert, walks me through the concept of “bodyfullness.” Sharing some personal experiences, she talks about how embodied mindfulness can help us...

#195 – ADD and Sex – Lisa Schwartz

Listen to "195: ADD and Sex – Lisa Schwartz" ADD and Sex Lisa Schwartz is here with me to talk about the intersection of ADD/ADHD with relationships and sex. We go over how ADD/ADHD can show up in various ways, strategies to build an intimate relationship, and how ADD...

#194 – Navigating Parenting Differences – Rachel Duffy

Listen to "194: Navigating Parenting Differences – Rachel Duffy" Rachel Duffy brings in actionable tips to navigate parenting that not only enriches your relationship with your children, but also unlock some of the barriers to your sex life. We discuss parenting...

#193 – Pleasure as a Means of Healing Trauma – Kathy Slaughter

Listen to "193: Pleasure as a Means of Healing Trauma – Kathy Slaughter" Pleasure as a Means to Healing Trauma  Kathy Slaughter introduces an interesting way of integrating pleasure, in both sexual and everyday activities, as a way to heal from trauma. She talks about...

#192 – Men Raped by Women – Kelvin Pace

Listen to "192: Men Raped by Women – Kelvin Pace" Men Raped by Women  Breaking myths about male victims of sexual assault, Kelvin Pace joins me in talking about changed parameters, frequency, the societal narrative of men raped by women, the path to healing, and...

#191 – Letting In Vs. Letting Go – Benson Fox

Listen to "191: Letting In Vs. Letting Go – Benson Fox" Trauma: Letting in vs Letting Go  Benson Fox; a transformational coach, therapist extern, a psych major, and a current doctoral student of Adelphi university, guides people and helps them to embrace all parts of...

#190 – Hormones are Your Superpower – Dr. Stephanie Estima

Listen to "190: Hormones are Your Superpower – Dr. Stephanie Estima" Hormones are Your Superpower  Dr. Stephanie Estima, author of the book The Betty Body: A Geeky Goddess' Guide to Intuitive Eating, Balanced Hormones, and Transformative Sex, joins us to talk all...

#189 – A Sexplanation – Alexander Liu

Listen to "189: A Sexplanation – Alexander Liu" A Sexplanation  Alexander Liu joins me in a conversation about his documentary “A Sexplanation”, which talks about his journey of coming out as gay in high school and his continued shame and disconnect over sex in his...

#188 – When your partner has Alzheimer’s – Wanda Braveman

Listen to "188: When your partner has Alzheimer’s – Wanda Braveman" When your partner has Alzheimer’s  Wanda Braveman joins me today to share her personal story through her book, “White Knight: Living with Alzheimer’s Moment by Moment.” The book details her difficult...

#187 -Considering Polyamory – Martha Kauppi

Listen to "187: Considering Polyamory – Martha Kauppi" Considering Polyamory  Martha Kauppi joins me in talking about her book, “Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients)” which acts as an aid for therapists and serves as a self-help manual for...

#186 – Cyber Infidelity – Dr. Peter Kanaris

Listen to "186: Cyber Infidelity with Dr. Peter Kanaris" Cyber Infidelity  Infidelity looks a lot more complicated in the cyber world. Dr. Peter Kanaris joins me to unravel what constitutes cyber infidelity, the recovery approaches involved, and ways to rebuild...

#185 – Cultivating Female Desire – Dr. Brandye Manigat

Listen to "185: Cultivating Female Desire – Dr. Brandye Manigat" Cultivating Female Desire  For all of the women who have ever wanted to feel sexy again; Dr. Brandye Manigat joins me in talking about cultivating pleasure and desire and reconnecting with one’s libido....

#184 – Anorgasmia in Women – Dr. Rachel Needle

Listen to "184: Anorgasmia in Women – Dr. Rachel Needle" Anorgasmia in Women  Dr. Rachel Needle joins me in a discussion about anorgasmia. We speak about how it manifests, what we can do about it, and if it’s something that can be turned around. We answer questions...

#183 – [Personal Story] Living with Lichen sclerosus – Tammy

Listen to "183: [Personal Story] Living with Lichen Sclerosus – Tammy" Living with Lichen Sclerosus  Tammy brings her journey with Lichen sclerosus and the experiences of many other women to light in this episode. We hear everything about what it’s like to live with...

#182 – When You’re the One Who Cheated – Tammy Nelson

Listen to "182: When You’re the One Who Cheated – Tammy Nelson" When you’re the one who cheated  Tammy Nelson, the author of the book When You’re The One Who Cheats, joins me to talk about cheating and infidelity from the point of the cheater. She offers her...

#181 – When Sex Hurts – Dr. Irwin Goldstein

Listen to "181: When Sex Hurts – Dr. Irwin Goldstein" When Sex Hurts  Dr. Irwin Goldstein, the founder of field of sexual medicine, joins me in the conversation about female sexual pain. He drives the talk with tons of fascinating information about sexual pain,...

#180 – Wheel of Consent – Dr. Betty Martin

Listen to "180: Wheel of Consent – Dr. Betty Martin" The Wheel of Consent  Dr Betty Martin, the author of the new book, The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent, is highlighting the importance of giving and receiving and maintaining that balance in sexual...

#179 – The Logic of Our Fantasies with Michael Bader

Listen to "179: The Logic of Our Fantasies with Michael Bader" The Logic of Sexual Fantasies Michael Bader, the author of the book Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies joins me in a fascinating conversation about sexual fantasies. We get to hear his ideas...

#177 – Urology for Women – Dr. Lamia Gabal

Listen to "177: Urology for Women – Dr. Lamia Gabal" Urology for Women  Dr Lamia Gabal is a Urologist with a sub-specialty in Female Pelvic Medicine and Reconstructive Surgery. She talks about all kinds of concerns women bring to a Urologist, information about the...

#176: Trauma Sensitive Sex – Cass Biron

Listen to "176: Trauma Sensitive Sex – Cass Biron" Trauma Sensitive Sex Today’s episode covers trauma and how it can obstruct our ability to connect our body and arousal to our emotional and social being, and later obstruct the way of connecting intimately with our...

#175 – Erotic Touch – Christina Antonyan

Listen to "175: Erotic Touch – Christina Antonyan" Christina Antonyan joins me to offer her perspective on erotic touch and its significance in a relationship. We talk about the primal character of attuned touch and how to access it to enhance your sex life without...

#174 – How Men Can Talk About Their Sexual Desires – Shana James

Listen to "174: How Men Can Talk About Their Sexual Desires – Shana James" How men can talk about their sexual desires   In this episode, Shana James shares how men can talk about their desires and their vulnerability toward having a thriving sex life.  Shana’s drive...

#173 – Self Love Secrets From a Bra Fitter

Listen to "173: Self Love Secrets From a Bra Fitter with Kimmay Caldwell" Self Love from a Bra Fitter with Kimmay Caldwell On this episode we hear from Kimmay Caldwell, an Undergarment Educator and Coach, whose 20-year-old self, working as a bra fitter, was struck by...

#171 – God wants us to have pleasure – Rachel Alba

Listen to "171: God Wants Us to Have Pleasure – Rachel Alba" God Wants Us To Have Pleasure  Our topic today is about getting closer to God through pleasure. I'm talking to Rachel Alba, who is a sex coach for people raised in Christian traditions that are struggling...

#170 – Orgasmic Expansion – Serena Haines

Listen to "170: Orgasmic Expansion – Serena Haines" Orgasmic Expansion Serena Haines joins me on this episode to talk about orgasmic expansion - a hybrid technique developed by fusing techniques she used working as a Somatic Sex Educator and Sexological Body Worker....

#169 – Out of Control Sexual Behavior in Women – Jessica Levith

Listen to "169: Out of Control Sexual Behavior in Women – Jessica Levith" Out of Control Sexual Behavior in Women  Today’s guest Jessica Levith, is a Licensed marriage therapist from California and is here to talk about the “Out of Control Sexual Behavior Model” which...

#168 – Moving Past Shame – Tilly Storm

Listen to "168: Moving Past Shame – Tilly Storm" Moving Past Shame  Today’s conversation surrounds sexual shame and negativity and how that leads to a loss of desire and pleasure in sex. Tilly Storm, a sexual coach, helps such women whose desire has been lost due to...

#167 – Awakened Intimacy – Maci Daye

Listen to "167: Awakened Intimacy – Maci Daye" Awakened Intimacy   Maci Daye joins us today to talk about awakened intimacy and share some of the practices she uses with couples. This episode discusses awakened intimacy in the context of mindfulness, being present and...

#165 – Stepping Into Your Feminine Wild – Natalie Frasca Surmeli

Listen to "165: Stepping Into Your Feminine Wild – Natalie Frasca Surmeli" Natalie Frasca Surmeli is here today to talk about stepping into your feminine wild and what it means. This episode talks of awakening feminine desire and pleasure by slowing down and getting...

#164 – Sexual Awareness – Kristen Lilla

Listen to "164: Sexual Awareness – Kristen Lilla" Sexual Awareness  In this episode we see how communication can affect a person’s sexuality and intimacy and how we can work towards that with our partner.   Communication, vulnerability and how to have conversations...

#163 – Joyful Monogamy – Lynne Sheridan

Listen to "163: Joyful Monogamy – Lynne Sheridan" Joyful Monogamy  Lynne E Sheridan, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist after being an international transformational trainer for 27 years is here today to talk about Joyful Monogamy from her book, “​The Birds and...

#162 – Perinatal Mental Health & Sex – Emma Shandy Anway

Listen to "162: Perinatal Mental Health & Sex – Emma Shandy Anway" Perinatal Mental Health and Sex Emma explains what perinatal mental health is and includes thinking about pregnant, becoming pregnant and the intersection of this with your sex life. When sex...

#161 – Menopause – Dr. Michelle Gordon

Listen to "161: Menopause – Dr. Michelle Gordon" Menopause  After having gone through menopause and being surprised by the event, Michelle discusses her journey to finding out more about it and how to make it easier for other women. She shares her experience after...

#160 – Sizzling Sex Across the Lifespan – Michael Castleman

Listen to "160: Sizzling Sex Across the Lifespan – Michael Castleman" Sizzling Sex Across the Lifespan  Michael Castleman is a journalist that has been writing specifically about sexuality since 2005. He is also the author of Sizzling Sex across the Lifespan, covering...

#159 – Erotic Blueprints – DD Haeg

Listen to "159: Erotic Blueprints – DD Haeg" Erotic Blueprints  On this episode we hear from DD Haeg who tells about the 5 Erotic Blueprints. She explains that this is a map/ language for how to turn each other on. They consist of the following:  Energetics : Like to...

#158 – Disability, Sex, and Creativity – Kate Wolovsky

Listen to "158: Disability, Sex, and Creativity – Kate Wolovsky" Disability, Sex and Creativity  On this episode, we learn how to maximize connection and pleasure if you are affected by physical barriers. Kate Wolovsky shares her story being affected with MS and still...

#157 – Body Image Liberation – KaRonna Lynn

Listen to "157: Body Image Liberation – KaRonna Lynn" Body Image Liberation  Liberation guide KaRonna Lynn, deals with body image obstacles. Liberation to KaRonna is about following what is liberating to you and not necessarily what society has defined as liberating....

#156 – The 5 Seasons of Connection – Leanne Kabat

Listen to "156: The 5 Seasons of Connection – Leanne Kabat" The 5 Seasons of Connection  On this episode, we hear about Leanne Kabat's personal journey. Faced with an illness and a young family, she found clarity and direction on how to choose to get out of chaos or...

#155 – Sex and the Developmentally Disabled – Richelle Fribotta

Listen to "155: Sex and the Developmentally Disabled – Richelle Fribotta" Sex and the Developmentally Disabled  On this episode, you will hear from Richelle Fribotta.  Richelle discusses her work teaching people with developmental and intellectual disabilities about...

#154 – Masculine Sexual Leadership – GS Youngblood

Listen to "154: Masculine Sexual Leadership – GS Youngblood" Masculine Sexual Leadership  GS found his path after his own painful journey in his personal life and used this to create his book and help others. He references strong women and clarifies that these are...

#153 – Love More, Fight Less – Dr. Gina Senarighi

Listen to "153: Love More, Fight Less – Dr. Gina Senarighi" Love More, Fight Less  From early on in her career, Dr Gina knew she wanted to help people with sex and relationships. Her work delved into the more uncommon areas such as discernment counseling, conscious...

#152 – Learning From LGBTQ Elders – Dr. Jane Fleishman

Listen to "152: Learning From LGBTQ Elders – Dr. Jane Fleishman" Learning From LGBTQ Elders  At age 56, Jane went back to finish her PhD and completed this at 62. She tells us this brought her into her own intellectually. She chose to focus on sexuality, as she found...

#151 – Blocks to Orgasm – Kim Akrigg

Listen to "151: Blocks to Orgasm – Kim Akrigg" Blocks to Orgasm  Kim joins me on this episode to discuss blocks to orgasm.  Her aim is to work with the subconscious mind to transform women.   What Blocks Orgasm?  She delves into the root of the problem being control...

#150 – Talking To Your Kids About Porn – Braxton Dutson

Listen to "150: Talking To Your Kids About Porn – Braxton Dutson"  How to Talk to Your Kids About Porn  With children being exposed to porn as early as 10 today, Braxton, teaches us how to deal with pornography and kids. He defines porn as content that is...

#149 – The State of Our Union – Dr. Corey Allan

Listen to "149: The State of Our Union – Dr. Corey Allan" State of Our Union Program  Bringing personal life experience to the fore, Corey explains how the idea of  ‘The State Of Our Union’ came about. On a weekly basis Corey and his wife used a text message reminder...

#148 – [Personal Story] A Triggered Life – Alba

Listen to "148: [Personal Story] A Triggered Life – Alba" A Triggered Life Alba  Soto is my guest on this episode. She shares her ‘triggered life’ experience, which still haunts her today. Her trauma began at the age of 3 at the hand of family members. Alba shares her...

#147 – Becoming Sex Positive

Listen to "147: Becoming Sex Positive with Heather Shannon" Becoming Sex Positive  Heather Shannon joins us on this episode to delve deeper into what being sex positive or sex negative actually means. In explaining what it actually means, Shannon relates it to a sense...

#145 – Sensate Focus – Linda Weiner

Listen to "145: Sensate Focus – Linda Weiner" Sensate Focus Exercises  Sensate focus is a touching technique for couples or individuals that stimulates the primal part of the brain to enjoy a fully immersive experience with your partner. The technique starts with...

#144 – What is sex therapy like – Paula Leech

Listen to "144: What is Sex Therapy Like – Paula Leech" What is Sex Therapy Like Paula shares that mindfulness plays a key role in sex therapy which ties in mind and body by focusing on sensate focus and behavior. The therapy is purely verbal and while it implies a...

#143 – Surrogate Partner Therapy – Brian Gibney

Surrogate Partner Therapy  Listen to "143: Surrogate Partner Therapy – Brian Gibney" What is Surrogate Partner Therapy  Surrogate Partner Therapy offers a unique, tailored space in which to safely explore trust, communication, emotional intimacy, sensuality, and...

#142 – Birth Control – Emily Aytes

Listen to "142: Birth Control – Emily Aytes" Birth Control  On this episode, we hear from birth control expert, Emily Aytes. She uncovers some of the most common questions she receives. Interestingly, Emily shares that both young and older people ask her about birth...

#141 – Doing Non-Monogamy Well – Tristan Taormino

Listen to "141: Doing Non-Monogamy Well – Tristan Taormino" Doing Non-monogamy well  On this episode we dig into non-monogamy with Tristan Taormino.  She discusses how the processing of both parties feelings is a crucial element to open relationships. Interestingly,...

#140 – Bawdy Bookworms – Thien-Kim Lam

Listen to "140: Bawdy Bookworms – Thien-Kim Lam" Bawdy Bookworms  On this episode, we visit the topic of erotic fantasy in a box! Thien-Kim came up with the idea after selling sex toys at parties and one day finding herself aroused while reading a novel.  She compares...

#139 – Safer Sex & STIs – Kayla Potts

Listen to "139: Safer Sex & STIs – Kayla Potts" Safer Sex & STIs On this episode, Kayla Potts educates us about STIs. She highlights that people often do not display symptoms when they have an STI and recommends testing as the only way to be certain of your...

#138 – [Personal Story] Pelvic Organ Prolapse – Erin

Listen to "138: [Personal Story] Pelvic Organ Prolapse – Erin" Personal Story: Erin Underwood  Once a casualty of prolapse, Erin is completely asymptomatic today. Having encountered this long before support groups and information was easily available, Erin was forced...

#137 – Dance, Flow State, and Sex – Ode Dixon

Listen to "137: Dance, Flow State, and Sex – Ode Dixon" Flow State and Dance 3 years ago Ode discovered Flow - The Psychology of Optimal Performance and picked up dancing again after so many years of not dancing regularly. This reversed her stressed-induced high blood...

#136 – Back into Dating – Marni Battista

Listen to "136: Back into Dating – Marni Battista" Dating again  Marni shares a great tip for figuring out what entering the dating world would be like. After gathering the stories we have about it in our minds, she suggests that we challenge the stories that could...

#135 – Optimal Sexual Experiences – Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz

Listen to "135: Optimal Sexual Experiences – Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz" Optimal Sexual Experiences  On this episode, Dr Kleinplatz introduces her findings around “optimal sexual experiences” based on actual interviews she performed. After much research, she shares these...

#134 – Senior Sex – Joan Price

Listen to "134: Senior Sex – Joan Price" Senior Sex  Joan tells us that being a senior sex advocate is her third career. She lived as a high school English teacher until a car accident made her acutely aware of the privilege of being able to be and stay mobile. She...

#133 – Sexual Personality Types – Vanessa Marin

Listen to "133: Sexual Personality Types – Vanessa Marin" Sexual Personality Types  Vanessa shares that she’s always working to make people’s sex lives better, but the idea of forming a personality test for sex began from hearing her clients talk about sex in very...

#132 – The Pleasure Gap – Katherine Rowland

Listen to "132: The Pleasure Gap – Katherine Rowland" The Pleasure Gap  Katherine explains her initial interest in sexual pleasure gaps began with her journalistic coverage of the search for a female version of Viagra. She describes being intrigued by the prevalence...

#131 – MS and Sex – Kimberly Castelo

Listen to "MS and Sex" with Kimberly Castelo MS and Sex  Living with MS  Six months after her daughter was born, Kimberly stopped nursing, and soon went completely numb on the left side of her body. An MRI uncovered that she had 8 lesions on her brain, which she says...

#130 – Sex and Orthodox Judaism – Dr. Shy Krug

Listen to "Sex and Orthodox Judaism" with Dr. Shy Krug Sex and Orthodox Judaism Diversity in Jewish Beliefs and Practices  Dr. Shy describes Jewish law as a corpus of Jewish religious requirements. He explains that every aspect of life has regulations to help Jews...

#129 – Sex during quarantine – Dr. Diana Wiley

Listen to "129: Sex During Quarantine – Dr. Diana Wiley" Sex During Quarantine Jessa and Diana feel compelled to note that this episode of the Better Sex Podcast was recorded on June 1, 2020. Diana suggests that quarantine’s stress of forced togetherness is hard for...

#128 – ADHD and Sex – Dr. Ari Tuckman

Listen to "128: ADHD and Sex – Dr. Ari Tuckman" ADHD and Sex - Dr. Ari Tuckman  To reach an ADHD diagnosis, Dr. Tuckman reports that a 45-minute interview is required. With the media coverage of young boys with ADHD, Dr. Tuckman says that most clinicians can diagnose...

#127 – Talking to kids about sex – Amy Lang

Listen to "127: Talking to Kids About Sex – Amy Lang" Talking to Kids about Sex  Amy noticed that even she was having trouble talking to her own child about sex, and she imagined it would be even more difficult for people without her work background. She discusses the...

#126 – [Personal Story] – Playing with Fire – Camille

Listen to "126: [Personal Story] – Playing with Fire – Camille" Playing with Fire On this episode, guest Camille describes herself as a late bloomer that was always concerned about being romantically involved.  She attributes some of her reticence to being raised in a...

#125 – Testosterone – Dr. Serena McKenzie

Listen to "125: Testosterone – Dr. Serena McKenzie" Testosterone Dr. McKenzie explains both sexes produce testosterone however it’s much more prevalent and important in men. Serena informs us that puberty is driven primarily by testosterone. She notes that...

#123 – 5 Core Conversations – Julie and David Bulitt

Listen to "123: 5 Core Conversations – Julie and David Bulitt" 5 Core Conversations  The Genesis of Five Core Conversations for Couples  Julie explains that she met David as an 18-year-old at the University of Maryland, which led to a 33-year marriage. She and David...

#122 – Feel Amazing Naked – Amanda Walker

Listen to "122: Feel Amazing Naked – Amanda Walker" Feel Amazing Naked  Amanda Walker is a health lifestyle coach whose focus is on helping women feel better naked. She created the Feel Amazing Naked Program and the Feel Amazing Naked Podcast. She is the creator and...

#121 – [Personal Story] Trauma as Tribal Initiation – Harriet

Listen to "121: [Personal Story] Trauma as Tribal Initiation – Harriet" Trauma as Tribal Initiation  Harriet joins us in this episode and shares her how her childhood molestation led to compulsive eating, a fear of men, painful sex, and other hallmarks of traumatic...

#120 – Pressures on Men – Dr. Corey Allan

Listen to "120: Pressures on Men – Dr. Corey Allan" The Pressures on Men in the Bedroom  Dr. Corey Allan is a Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Professional Counselor with a PhD in Family Therapy. He has a private practice in McKinney, TX. With his wife, Pam,...

#119 – Guide to Wicked Sex – Jessica Drake

Listen to "119: Guide to Wicked Sex – Jessica Drake" Guide To Wicked Sex Jessica Drake is an adult film performer, writer, and director. She’s also a sexual health advocate and sex educator. Her onscreen work earned her numerous awards, including three AVN Best...

#118 – Coming Out – Dr. Christopher Belous

Listen to "118: Coming Out – Dr. Christopher Belous" Coming Out Dr. Belous is an Associate Professor, the Director of the Couple and Family Therapy Center at Purdue University Northwest, and a practicing therapist. He is a certified sex therapist and educator, a...

#116 – Sexual Authenticity – Domina Franco

Listen to "116: Sexual Authenticity – Domina Franco" Sexual Authenticity Domina Franco is a New York City based sex educator, coach, and writer. Franco completed her Masters in Human Sexuality at Widener University and helps clients of all genders and orientations...

#115 – Creating Relationship Satisfaction – Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh

Listen to "115: Creating Relationship Satisfaction – Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh" Creating Relationship Satisfaction Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh is a global thought leader in psychosexual therapy, couple counseling, and social psychology. A former member of the International...

#114 – Permission; Finding Your Libido – Lauren White

Listen to "114: Permission; Finding Your Libido – Lauren White" Finding Your Libido Lauren is a qualified sexologist and permission-granter who helps her clients reduce stress and reinvigorate their sex lives. Through her writing, online classes, and one-on-one...

#113 – Premature Ejaculation and Treatment – Jeff Abraham

Listen to "113: Premature Ejaculation and Treatment – Jeff Abraham" Premature Ejaculation and Treatment Jeff Abraham is a man dedicated to doing the right thing. After winning a court case against Hyundai who asked him to actively discriminate against female and...

#112 – Hip Injuries Can Cause Sexual Pain with Dr. Ben Domb

Listen to "112: Hip Injuries Can Cause Sexual Pain – Dr. Ben Domb" Hip Injuries Can Cause Sexual Pain Benjamin Domb, M.D. is the Founder, Medical Director, and Orthopedic Surgeon at American Hip Institute & Orthopedic Specialists. His group pioneers advanced,...

#111 – Advocating for LGBTQ Youth in School – Michelle Belke 

Listen to "111: Advocating for LGBTQ Youth in School – Michelle Belke" Advocating for LGBTQ Youth in School  Michelle Belke currently works as a Mental Health School Counsellor at an independent school in Metro Detroit, Michigan. She has a part-time private practice...

#110 – Your Conscious Sexual Self – Melissa Fritchle

Listen to "110: Your Conscious Sexual Self – Melissa Fritchle" The Conscious Sexual Self  My guest is Melissa Fritchle. She has developed The Conscious Sexual Self Workbook, she is a mindfulness meditation teacher, a Holistic Sex Therapist, is an educator and workshop...

#109 – Sleep, Snoring and Sex – Lindsay Tucker

Listen to "109: Sleep, Snoring and Sex – Lindsay Tucker" Sleep, Snoring, and Sex  My guest today is Lindsay Tucker. She is the founder of artfulsleep.com and is on a mission for better sleep for all. When managing a snoring partner, she has a fresh perspective on the...

#108 – Out of Control Sexual Behavior – Doug Braun-Harvey

Listen to "108: Out of Control Sexual Behavior – Doug Braun-Harvey" Out of Control Sexual Behavior  My guest, the sexuality educator, author, trainer, and psychotherapist Doug Braun Harvey is here to share his knowledge on an important distinction in the sexual health...

#107 – Sexological Bodywork – Charlie Glickman

Listen to "107: Sexological Bodywork – Charlie Glickman" Sexological Bodywork  My guest, Charlie Glickman, has been a sex educator for over 25 years. But it wasn’t until about 15 years ago that he realized the power of bodywork for managing and working through sexual...

#106 – Pelvic Floor Function after Childbirth – Kathe Wallace

Listen to "106: Pelvic Floor Function after Childbirth – Kathe Wallace" Pelvic Floor Function after Childbirth  My guest is the author of Reviving Your Sex Life After Childbirth, a pioneer for diagnosing and treating pelvic floor dysfunction, and also a practicing...

#105 – Trans Sexualities – Lucie Fielding

Listen to "105: Trans Sexualities – Lucie Fielding" Trans Sexualities  My guest Lucie Fielding identifies as a nonbinary femme. She is a Resident in Counseling, where she practices under supervision as a counselor in Charlottesville, Virginia. In addition to her...

#104 – Recovering your sexuality after cancer – Tara Galeano

Listen to "104: Recovering Your Sexuality After Cancer – Tara Galeano" Recovering your sexuality after cancer  My guest is a certified sex therapist and sexologist with a lot of important information to share on sex therapy for women with cancer. She is the creator of...

#103 – Finding Your Yes – Pamela Madsen

Listen to "103: Finding Your Yes – Pamela Madsen" Finding Your Yes  Pamela Madsen joins me on this episode about the importance of finding your YES.   Pamela explains the conditioning women undergo, which rewards them for saying no and ignoring their desires. By...

#102 – Medical Treatment for Menopause – Dr. Rebecca Dunsmoor-Su

Listen to "102: Medical Treatment for Menopause – Dr. Rebecca Dunsmoor-Su" Medical Treatments for Menopause  Dr. Rebecca Dunsmoor works in Seattle, Washington as an OBGYN specializing in diagnosing and treating unwelcome symptoms of menopause. The North American...

#101 – [Personal Story] – Healing from Abuse – Toni

Listen to "101: [Personal Story] – Healing from Abuse – Toni" Healing From Abuse  My guest, whom I call Toni in this episode, is here to share a personal story of abuse and eventual transformation. Within the interview, she shares a lot of difficult episodes and...

#100- Body Kindness – Rebecca Scritchfield

Listen to "100: Body Kindness – Rebecca Scritchfield" Body Kindness  My guest Rebecca Scritchfield is an exercise physiologist, nutritionist, author of Body Kindness and host of the Body Kindness podcast. She is a strong advocate for body positivity and healthy...

#99 – From Sexual Madness to Mindfulness – Jennifer Gunsaullus

Listen to "99: From Sexual Madness to Mindfulness – Jennifer Gunsaullis" From Sexual Madness to Mindfulness  My guest is fresh off a book tour for her new book From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women. Her name is Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus and she is a...

#98 – BDSM and Kink – Tamara Pincus

Listen to "98: BDSM and Kink – Tamara Pincus" BDSM and Kink  My guest today is Tamara Pincus, who is an AASECT certified sex therapist, an advocate for BDSM and polyamory, and an overall celebrator of the diverse BDSM community. In this episode, she breaks down the...

#97 – Sex and Chronic Illness – Dr. Lee Phillips

Listen to "97: Sex and Chronic Illness – Dr. Lee Phillips" Chronic Illness and Sex  My guest is here to talk about chronic illness and how it relates to sex. Originally, there wasn’t a lot of information or resources on the subject, so to fulfill this pressing need,...

#96 – [Personal Story] – Orthodox Judaism and Sexuality – Matty

Listen to "96: [Personal Story] Orthodox Judaism and Sexuality – Matty" Orthodox Judaism and Sexuality  My guest, whom I will call Matty, grew up in an orthodox Jewish family. In this personal story, she shares her unique perspective on her upbringing and how it has...

#95 – Sherrie Palm – Pelvic Organ Prolapse

Listen to "95: Sherrie Palm – Pelvic Organ Prolapse" Pelvic Organ Prolapse  My guest is Sherrie Palm, who is the founder and CEO of the Association for Pelvic Organ Prolapse Support. In addition, Sherrie wrote a great book called Pelvic Organ Prolapse: The Silent...

#94 – Dr. Jennifer Valli – Fetishes

Listen to "94: Dr. Jennifer Valli – Fetishes" Fetishes My guest today is Jennifer Valli. She has been on the show before to share her expertise and we’re very fortunate to have her back!   Jenifer has a Ph.D., has 26 years of clinical experience in psychiatry, and is...

#93 – Taylor Pierce – Navigating Jealousy

Listen to "93: Taylor Pierce – Navigating Jealousy" Navigating Jealousy  My guest, Taylor Pierce, is a therapist at the Center for Couples & Sex Therapy in Portland, Oregon. She works closely with couples to explore issues in relationships and sexuality and really...

#92 – Matthias Rose – Ejaculatory Choice

Listen to "92: Matthias Rose – Ejaculatory Choice" Ejaculatory Control or Choice  My guest is a repeat guest, which is a first for the Better Sex Podcast! His name is Matthias Rose and he is a Tantric teacher and healer. Matthias operates his practice out of Seattle...

#91 – Kara Haug – Fairy Tale Expectations

Listen to "91: Kara Haug – Fairy Tale Expectations" Happily Ever After is a Fairy Tale  My guest today is Kara Haug. She is the creator of Grace Unbound and is a practicing sex educator with a B.A. in Psychology and a Masters in Theological Studies, as well as a...

#90 – Susan Bratton – Sexual Vitality

Listen to "90: Susan Bratton – Sexual Vitality" Sexual Vitality My guest Susan Bratton has been called a ‘trusted hot sex advisor for millions’. She is a sex technique publisher, a celebrated speaker, educator, CEO and Co-Founder of Personal Life Media, and the list...

#89 – Dr. Justin Lehmiller – Sexual Fantasies

Listen to "89: Dr. Justin Lehmiller – Sexual Fantasies" Sexual Fantasies and Eroticism  I know I say it often, but this topic is one of my favorites. In this episode, I talk with Dr. Justin Lehmiller about the all-important topic of sexual fantasies.   Justin is a...

#88 – Dr. Corey Allan – Desire Discrepancy Conversations

Listen to "88: Dr. Corey Allan – Desire Discrepancy Conversation" Desire Discrepancy Conversation  My guest is Dr. Corey Allan. He is a professional counselor and host of the podcast Sexy Marriage Radio, which centers on helping couples experience amazing sex within...

#87 – [Soapbox] – You are not broken

Listen to "87: [Soapbox] – You Are Not Broken" You are not broken  I get back on my soapbox this week to talk about something I think is important. So many people feel broken or like something is wrong with them when they struggle with sex, but this is not true.  All...

#86: [Reprise] Emily Nagoski – Come As You Are

Listen to "86: [Reprise] Emily Nagoski – Come As You Are" Come As You Are My guest today is the acclaimed author of the best selling, Come as You Are. Emily has been a sex educator since 1995, where she put her education to good use (psychology, cognitive science, and...

#85 – [Soapbox] – Talking about Sex with your Partner

Listen to "85: [Soapbox] – Talking about Sex with your Partner" Talking about sex with your partner How can you bring up your sexual concerns with your partner? On this episode, I focus Ton talking about sex with your partner when things are not going well. It can be...

#84: Martha Kauppi – Sexual Desire Issues

Sexual Desire Issues  My guest today is Martha Kauppi, who is a certified sex therapist and supervisor. Through her practice in Wisconsin, she focuses largely on relationships and how they can affect sex, and vice versa. In addition, she has a background in...

#83: Dr. Kelifern Pomeranz – Erectile Dysfunction

Listen to "#83: Dr. Kelifern Pomeranz – Erectile Dysfunction" Erectile Dysfunction  My guest is Dr. Kelifern Pomeranz. She is a licensed clinical psychiatrist, a sex therapist, and an overall expert on arousal disorders and more. She has a practice in Silicon Valley...

#82: [Soapbox] – Exploring Eroticism

Listen to "82: [Soapbox] Exploring Eroticism – Jessa Zimmerman" Exploring Eroticism  The topic today is eroticism, which is our unique fingerprint of what turns us on. It's a set of things or the theme of things that really arouses us - that we find highly interesting...

#81: August McLaughlin – Girl Boner

Listen to "81: August McLaughlin – Girl Boner" Girl Boner – A Story of Empowerment  My guest is August McLaughlin. She is a celebrated health and sexuality writer, the creator of Girl Boner, wrote a book with the same name, and is a fellow podcaster!   As she states...

#80: [Soapbox] – Desire Discrepancy Issues and Strategies

Listen to "80: [Soapbox] Desire Discrepancy Strategies with Jessa Zimmerman" Desire Discrepancy may or may not be a term that you've heard. This is where two different people want different amounts of sex. There's a discrepancy between your desire and your partner’s....

#79: Dr. Sharon Cohen – Feminine Energy

Listen to "79: Feminine Energy – Dr. Sharon Cohen" All about Feminine Energy  My guest Sharon Cohen, PhD has been working in the mental health field for over 25 years. She has also specialized in love and relationships for the past 7 years, but as she states during...

#78: [Soapbox] – Sexual Satisfaction Scale

Listen to "78: [Soapbox] Sexual Satisfaction Scale with Jessa Zimmerman" Because there have been so many great guests and conversations on the show, it has been awhile since we’ve done a soapbox episode. In this soapbox, Jessa talks about measuring sexual satisfaction...

#77: How Childbirth Affects Men – Dr. Amy Gilliland

Listen to "77: How Childbirth Affects Men – Dr. Amy Gilliland" Men and childbirth  My guest is Dr. Amy Gilliland, Ph.D., ADVCD/BDT(DONA), CSE (AASECT). She is a doula, an AASECT certified sexual educator, and her work has been extensively shared and published in many...

#75: Feminine and Fulfilled – Shazia Imam

Listen to "75: Feminine and Fulfilled – Shazia Imam" Feminine and Fulfilled  My guest Shazia Imam works with women who are looking to access and unlock their deepest desires and power. She is very skilled at inspiring women to chase their desires once they have...

#74: Yes Brain in the Bedroom – Heidi Crockett

Listen to "74: Yes Brain in the Bedroom - Heidi Crockett" About Heidi Crockett  My guest is Heidi Crockett. She is a highly qualified sexual health educator and speaker on stress and sex. She is also the author of The Neuroscience of Dating and Caregiver Stress:...

#73 – Jim Fleckenstein – Consensual Non-Monogamy

Listen to "73: Jim Fleckenstein – Consensual Non-Monogamy" Consensual Non-Monogamy  My guest is Jim Fleckenstein. He is a coach and educator on sexuality. He is also a researcher who focuses predominantly on non-exclusive relationships and how they affect the...

#72: Amy Lang – Signs of sexual abuse in children

Listen to "72: Amy Lang – Signs of Sexual Abuse in Children" Signs of sexual trauma in children  My guest for this episode is Amy Lang: she has been teaching sex for over 25 years now with an emphasis on teaching kids about sexuality in an effective, healthy way. Amy...

#71: Dr. Sheila Addison – Transgender/Cisgender Relationships

Listen to "71: Dr. Sheila Addison - When Your Partner is Transgender" Dr. Sheila Addison: when your partner is transgender  This episode is a wealth of information. It is delivered by the expert guidance of guest Dr. Sheila Addison and covers many important elements...

#70: DJ Burr [Personal Story] – Recovery Saved My Life

Listen to "70: DJ Burr [Personal Story] – Recovery Saved My Life" In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, it is my honor to welcome DJ as he shares his personal journey with you. Having people come in and share the details of their life is one of the best parts of...

#69: Dr. Lori Brotto – Mindfulness and Sex

Listen to "69: Dr. Lori Brotto – Mindfulness and Sex" My guest is Dr. Lori Brotto. She works at the University of British Columbia Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology. Lori has a Ph.D. in psychology with an emphasis in psychophysiology. She is a practicing...

#67: Alice Little – Legal Sex Work

Listen to "67: Alice Little - Legal Sex Work" An Intimate Conversation with a Legal Sex WorkerMy guest, Alice Little, works at the Moonlight Bunny Ranch in Nevada, which is a legal brothel and where she has worked for the last three years. And as she states during the...

#66: Pam Costa – Women Talking About Sex

Listen to "66: Pam Costa - Women Talking About Sex" The importance of talking about sex My guest, Pam Costa, spent a decade-and-a-half at both Apple and Facebook. After having a life-changing experience with a sex therapist during a session, she realized that a...

#65: Lara McElderry – Prioritizing Intimacy

Listen to "65: Lara McElderry - Prioritizing Intimacy" My guest Lara McElderry knows all about the struggles of being married to a surgeon: the crazy hours, the extensive amount of time spent in training, and the toll it can take on any relationship dynamic. And in...

#64: Stephanie Buehler – Fertility Issues and Sex

My guest on today’s show is Stephanie Buehler. She’s a licensed therapist, AASECT certified sex therapist, a graduate of UCLA and Pepperdine (among others), and a best-selling writer who has authored many enlightening books on sexuality and sex therapy, including...

#63: Ellen Dechesne – Third Stage Sex

Listen to "63: Ellen Duchesne - Third Stage Sex" As my guest Ellen Dechesne relates during this episode, sex in your later years, what is defined as the ‘third stage’ of your life, is a very important and relevant topic to consider. A self-proclaimed late bloomer for...

#62: Mariah Freya – Conscious Sex

Listen to "62: Mariah Freya - Conscious Sex" My guest is Mariah Freya, the founder of Beducated.com, which is a website and repository of online courses, resources, and tantric-infused concepts for more conscious sex. And today, Mariah stops by to share with you and...

#61: Dr. Valerie Rein – Patriarchal Stress Disorder

Listen to "#61: Dr. Valerie Rein - Patriarchal Stress Disorder" My guest for this episode is Dr. Valerie Rein. She is an author, psychologist, and in addition, founded Her Genius, Inc. Through her work, she has coined the term Patriarchal Stress Disorder to capture...

#60: Dr. Mark Schoen – SexSmartFilms

Listen to "#60: Dr. Mark Schoen - SexSmartFilms" My guest is Mark Schoen. He is a prolific sex-education filmmaker--he has made over 50 of them!--and still very productive and skilled at his important work in the industry. As his focus attests, educating the general...

#59: Carolina Vee [Personal Story] – Permission to Love Herself

Listen to "#59: Carolina Vee [Personal Story] - Permission to Love Herself" My guest for this episode is Carolina Vee. She has an extremely important story to tell and we are so privileged to have her on the show. As a victim of sexual abuse, it took a long time for...

#58: Steph Auteri – A Dirty Word

Listen to "#58: Steph Auteri - A Dirty Word" My guest Steph has been writing about sexuality for more than fifteen years. She generally writes about sex education, rape culture, and perceptions regarding female sexuality. Her book A Dirty Word: How a Sex Writer...

#57: Stan Tatkin – We Do

Listen to "#57: Stan Tatkin - We Do"   Stan Tatkin is the founder of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy®(PACT). He has worked with couples for more than fifteen years in his clinical practice. He teaches, he counsels, he writes, he does it all! Stan...

#56: Amanda Testa – Feminine Fire

Listen to "#56: Amanda Testa - Feminine Fire" My guest Amanda Testa is an expert in sex and love. She is the founder of Find Your Feminine Fire, which is a program that combines concepts from neuroscience and tantra. Utilizing her coaching experience and knowledge in...

#55: Lisa Diamond – Female Sexual Fluidity

Listen to "#55: Lisa Diamond - Female Sexual Fluidity" Today, Lisa Diamond tells us about her past and present research on sexual fluidity. Lisa M. Diamond is Professor of Psychology and Gender Studies at the University of Utah. Her research focuses on the development...

#54: Emily [Personal Story] – Asking for What You Want

Listen to "#54: Emily [Personal Story] - Asking for What You Want" Bi-Sexual Awakening As early as 10 or 11, Emily felt that she was bi-sexual. Listen as she describes her evolution of feelings, relationships, and sexual interactions. Coming of AgeAt the age of 16,...

#53: Daniela Wittmann – Prostate Cancer and Sex

Listen to "#53: Daniela Wittmann - Prostate Cancer and Sex" My guest Daniela Wittmann is an expert on prostate health and urology. In fact, she is a very prominent member of the Prostate Cancer Survivorship Program; in addition, she is an associate professor of...

#52: Jessa Zimmerman [Soapbox] – Changing Your Mindset

Listen to "#52: Jessa Zimmerman [Soapbox] - Changing Your Mindset" In this episode we talk about changing your mindset about sex and about relationships. This episode will challenge your ideas about roles in a relationship and describe a list of new rules to follow...

#51: Emily Nagoski – Come As You Are

Listen to "#51: Emily Nagoski - Come As You Are" The Motivation for Come As You Are My guest today is Emily Nagoski, the acclaimed author of the best selling book, Come as You Are. As Emily relates, the motivation to write her best-selling book has a very prominent...

#49: Stephen [Personal Story] – Tantra for Healing

Listen to "#49: Stephen [Personal Story] - Tantra for Healing" It is time for another personal story. As always, on my show, I like to shine a spotlight on important stories from people who need to tell them. These personal stories offer fresh perspectives on subjects...

#48: Ian Kerner – She Comes First

Listen to "#48: Ian Kerner - She Comes First" The True Meaning of ‘Cliteracy’ Starting with a discussion of his book, She Comes First, Ian Kerner’s coined word ‘cliteracy’ is given more thought and emphasis. Overall, the term encapsulates the aim of his bestselling...

#47: Jessa – Expectations are the Problem

Listen to "#47: Jessa [Soapbox] - Expectations are the Problem" The Sexual Avoidance Cycle Revisited: The Dangers of ‘Sexpectations’ Today we are going to revisit the Sexual Avoidance Cycle; more specifically, we are going to talk about the Disappointment Phase of the...

#46: Dr. Tina Sellers – Sex, God, and the Conservative Church

Listen to "#46: Dr. Tina Sellers - Sex, God, and the Conservative Church" Overcoming Sexual Shame In her work, Sellers places considerable emphasis on reversing sexual shame in her clients’ and readers’ minds. Growing up in a sexually-open environment, with parents...

#45: Pia [Personal Story] – Parent of a Trans Teen

Listen to "#45: Pia [Personal Story] - Parent of a Trans Teen" Parenting a trans teen Pia is the mother of a transgender child (now twenty years old) who underwent a successful physical transition into his male self. Pia’s love for her kid and overall emotional...

#44: Paul Joannides – The Guide to Getting It On

Listen to "#44: Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On" The Guide to Getting It On: A Self-Published Phenomenon If there was ever an excuse to self-publish a book, The Guide is a great example of how successful one can be using the practice. After Paul had taken...

#43: Jenny Berk – Body Image

Listen to "#43: Jenny Berk - Body Image" Our Body Image: Is it Environmentally Reinforced? To start this episode, Jenny shares her fascination for the “etiology” (origin) of our body image. That is, when did we first become self-conscious about our bodies? Jenny...

#42: Suzanna Mathews – Cougar-Cub Relationships

Listen to "#42: Suzanna Mathews - Cougar-Cub Relationships" Using the Term “Cougar” To start this episode, Suzanna talks about the negative connotations surrounding the title “cougar.” There are considerable allusions to predatory behavior when the term is brought up....

#41: Peggy Bennett – Matchmaking

Listen to "#41: Peggy Bennett - Matchmaking" Basics of Matchmaking School Listen in as Peggy describes her learning experience at the Matchmaking Institute of New York. What do you need to pay attention to when matchmaking? Peggy details that listening carefully...

#40: Jessa Zimmerman [Soapbox] – Sexual Avoidance Cycle

Listen to "#40: Jessa Zimmerman [Soapbox] - Sexual Avoidance Cycle" The Sexual Avoidance Cycle is far more common than many would believe, and I talk about this situation, what causes it and perpetuates its continuance. I also answer the first of my listener questions...

#39: Heather [Personal Story] – Sexual Trauma & Awakening

A personal story of trauma and awakening Listen to the story of Heather and her traumatic experiences which led to her transformative journey in her own life. She grew up feeling like an outsider with feelings of inadequacy. Hear Heather describe her struggles that...

#38: Dr. Steven Davidson – Pornography

Listen to "#38: Dr. Steven Davidson - Pornography" Pornography - the good and the bad Listen to the discussion of the role of Erotica and Pornography in a relationship and the positive and negative impacts. Defining Pornography What is the definition of pornography?...

#37: Lara Currie – Difficult Conversations

Listen to "#37: Lara Currie - Difficult Conversations" Difficult conversations as an opportunity? Challenge as an opportunity? Listen as Lara describes the context of conflict. She discusses how the components of assumption, judgment and expectation lead to a...

#36: Rebecca Coffey – Evolution and Sexual Behavior

Listen to "#36: Rebecca Coffey - Evolution and Sexual Behavior" Evolutionary Psychology and Sex In this episode, Rebecca tells us about Evolutionary Psychology, examining our roles and interactions through a biological and historical lens. Listen in as she compares...

#35: [Personal Story] Marina – Journey of Liberation

Listen to "#35: [Personal Story] Marina - Journey of Liberation" A personal story of sexual liberation In this episode, I talk to Marina, who shares her personal journey from struggles with her self-image and a painful first sexual experience, to finally feeling...

#34: Katie Zvolerin – Adam & Eve

Listen to "#34: Katie Zvolerin - Adam & Eve" History of Adam & Eve, A Sex Toy Retailer Listen in as Katy discusses how Adam & Eve started out. She mentions it was just a thesis requirement to complete the founder Phil Harvey’s Master’s Degree. Being part...

#33: Dr. Laurie Mintz – The Orgasm Gap

Listen to "#33: Dr. Laurie Mintz - The Orgasm Gap" Becoming Cliterate Dr. Laurie shares the reason behind why she wrote her book, Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How to Get It. As a professor to over 150 students a year, she shares the influence...

#32: Beth Liebling – Darling Way

Listen to "#32: Beth Liebling - Darling Way" The Store: Darling Way In this episode, Beth talks about how she started and founded the Darling Way after her 22-year marriage ended with a divorce. She shares how her shop started after an awful experience buying a...

#31: [Personal Story] Anca – A Recovering People Pleaser

Listen to "#31: [Personal Story] Anca - A Recovering People Pleaser" Recovering from people pleasing Today's guest is sharing her story of claiming her story, rewriting her story, figuring out which parts she wants in, and which parts no longer serve her. She says it...

#30: Tamara Powell – Polyamory

Listen to "#30: Tamara Powell - Polyamory" Polyamory - one version of consensual non-monogamy. There are certainly plenty of people that choose an open relationship of one sort or another. Even though they're committed to each other, but by agreement, they are...

#29: Maegan Megginson – Female Sexual Pain

Listen to "#29: Maegan Megginson - Female Sexual Pain" Welcome to Better Sex. Today we are covering an important and pervasive topic. We're going to talk about female sexual pain, a woman's sexual pain. Way too many people struggle with painful conditions and most of...

#28: Brodie Welch – Holistic Approaches to Libido

Listen to "#28: Brodie Welch - Holistic Approaches to Libido" Today’s episode features Brodie Welch, a Chinese Medicine expert who helps us to recognize that from a Chinese medicine perspective, everything is energy, and sexual energy is an important subset of our...

#26: Melissa Walker – Healing Our Sexual Fragmentation

Listen to "#26: Melissa Walker - Healing Our Sexual Fragmentation" Correction: I mis-spoke in my introduction to the episode. Melissa is not yet certified as a sex therapist. I apologize for any confusion. Sexual Fragmentation - what is it and how does it show up in...

#25: Amanda Laird – Menstruation and Sexual Health

Listen to "#25: Amanda Laird - Menstruation and Sexual Health" Amanda’s interest in menstrual health began as early as her childhood. Today she passionately shares her wisdom about how women should have knowledge of how their bodies work and, with this, feel empowered...

#24: Stacy Fisher-Gunn – The Importance of Self-Care

Listen to "#24: Stacy Fisher-Gunn - The Importance of Self-Care" What is self-care? Tune in to hear Stacy’s definition of self-care: what it looks like and how it relates to all areas of life, not only with regards to physical health but mental and emotional health as...

#23: Dr. Serena Fiacco – Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy

Listen to "#23: Dr. Serena Fiacco - Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy" What is pelvic floor physical therapy? Dr. Fiacco kicks off by telling us exactly what pelvic floor physical therapy is; explaining about the basic musculature of the pelvic area and what kind of...

#22: Dr. Renee Flores – Sex and Sexuality in the Elderly

Listen to "#22: Dr. Renee Flores - Sex and Sexuality in the Elderly" Sex in the elder years In today's episode, we look at sex and sexuality in the elderly. It is a common misconception that people are no longer sexually active as they grow older and Dr. Flores will...

#21: [Personal Story] Nancy & Frank – A Perfect Storm

Listen to "#21: [Personal Story] Nancy & Frank - A Perfect Storm" Frank was raised in a conservative home that placed a noose of fear and shame around sex. After a decade of fantasizing about sex, Frank married in his late 20’s and recalls the awkwardness about...

#20: Dr. Stephen Snyder – Why Social Media is Making Sex Obsolete

Listen to "#20: Dr. Stephen Snyder - Why Social Media is Making Sex Obsolete" Social Media is making sex obsolete. Dr. Stephen Snyder shares a shocking statistic that reveals the drop in the sexual interaction between people. He unpacks his very interesting theory on...

#19: Robin LaCross – Talking to Kids About Sex

Listen to "#19: Robin LaCross - Talking to Kids About Sex" How do you talk to kids about sex? In today’s episode, Robin LaCross and I discuss talking about sex to kids. Robin shares the childhood experiences that drew her to her purpose. She reveals the impact of a...

#18: Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh – A New Perspective on Passion

Listen to "#18: Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh - A New Perspective on Passion" How important is passion? The place of Love across cultures In this episode of Better Sex, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh unwraps her theory of love in two categories: submergent and emergent. She describes...

#17: Jennifer Valli – Men’s Sexual Concerns and Solutions

Listen to "#17: Jennifer Valli - Men's Sexual Concerns and Solutions" Men's sexual health concerns often stem from the pressure of expectations In today’s episode, Jessa and Jennifer Valli talk about men’s sexual health concerns and dysfunctions (men being defined as...

#16: Heather Edwards – Vino and Vulvas

Listen to "#16: Heather Edwards - Vino and Vulvas" Vino & Vulvas  - A community conversation about sex Today I am delighted to have Heather Edwards, who has been a pelvic physical therapist for 14 years and is currently completing the University of Michigan’s...

#15: [Personal Story] Alli – Sexual Trauma

Listen to "#15: [Personal Story] Alli - Sexual Trauma" Triumph after sexual trauma This is the first in a new series of episodes where I will be talking to real people sharing real stories. On this episode, I am joined by Alli, a recovering overachiever who has...

#13: Jeni Dahn – Energy and Sex

Listen to "#13: Jeni Dahn, Energy and Sex" I'm excited about the topic for this episode. We're going to be talking about both Masculine and Feminine Energy. I'm talking about this because it's relevant to sex and to our lives in general. We all have masculine and...

#11: Tammy Senn – Postpartum Sexuality, Listen to Your Body

Listen to "#11: Tammy Senn - Postpartum Sexuality, Listen to Your Body" Well, the last episode of my podcast was about pregnancy and sexuality, and it seemed to make sense to go right into the next obvious topic, which is postpartum sexuality. Talk about a lot of...

#9: Anna Joy Reedy – Platonic Cuddling and Healing Touch Therapy

Listen to "#9: Anna Joy Reedy - Platonic Cuddling and Healing Touch Therapy" I give a lot of thought to what makes a great sex life. What makes us sex life healthy, what makes it enjoyable for people, what makes it fulfilling? When I consider the kinds of things that...

#7: Dr. Stephanie Ring – Menopause: Understanding the Inevitable

Listen to "#7: Dr. Stephanie Ring – Menopause: Understanding the Inevitable" As I was putting the podcast together, I put out a little survey to my subscribers asking what kinds of topics people wanted me to cover. While it is not the most frequent presenting concern...

#6: Sallie Foley – Sex Therapy: What is it?

Listen to "#6: Sallie Foley – Sex Therapy: What is it?" So why is today's show about sex therapy? Well, because I'm a certified sex therapist and I know that a lot of people listening don't know what that means. There is confusion about what sex therapy is and what a...

#4: Dr. Joe Kort – “Is My Husband Gay?” | Male Sexual Fluidity

Listen to "#4: Dr. Joe Kort - "Is My Husband Gay?" | Male Sexual Fluidity" What are we talking about? Men who have sex with men, have done it in the past or who are interested in it, but still identify as straight or mostly straight. However, their behavior or their...

#3: Parke Burgess – The Virus Known As Shame

Shame. We're not born with it but it is given to us at a very early age. And we unwittingly pass it along to others. Listen to "#3: Parke Burgess - The Virus Known As Shame" on Spreaker. Shame is an emotional response which is completely natural, and you should never...

#2: Edy Nathan – Grief, Sex, and Life

Sexual changes throughout life are not always looked at as moments of grief. But, they certainly are and even if they seem small, they can add up to bigger, more powerful moments. Listen to "#2: Edy Nathan - Grief, Sex, and Life" on Spreaker. During this engaging...

#1: Sar Surmick – Sexual Consent, Did They Say “No?”

Listen to "#1: Sar Surmick - Sexual Consent, Did They Say "No?"" Consent is all over the news right now. Or, at least, lack of consent is all over the news. From politicians to movie stars, people are being accused of sexual assault and harassment. This makes the...

#0: Jessa Zimmerman – Welcome to Better Sex

Listen to "#0: Jessa Zimmerman - Welcome to Better Sex, You Deserve a Good Sex Life" Jessa Zimmerman welcomes you to the new show and gives you some background on who she is and why she started the podcast. Welcome to the very first episode of Better Sex. I'm so glad...

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