The Better Sex Podcast
Episode List
426 Soapbox The Power of Our Stories
Click to Listen on SubstackHost Jessa Zimmerman shares a personal story from a coaching workshop to illustrate how the meaning we assign to events shapes our emotions, physiology, behavior, and ultimately our results. After waiting two hours to ask her mentor James a...
425: Delayed Ejaculation
Click to Listen on SubstackHost Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Andre Lazarus back to discuss delayed ejaculation, defining it as a consistent difficulty reaching ejaculation that becomes a concern when it bothers the person or impacts the relationship. Andre describes...
424: [Soapbox] Relationship Agreements for Difficult Conversations
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this soapbox episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman suggests couples create explicit relationship agreements—written down and revisited during hard moments—rather than assuming they share the same...
423: Shameless care – STI testing from home
Click to Listen on SubstackHost Jessa Zimmerman talks with Robert Johnson and Anna Osman from Shameless Care about common gaps in “full panel” STI testing and why site-specific screening matters, especially throat swabs for gonorrhea and chlamydia. Robert shares how...
422: [Soapbbox] 17 reasons your man has lower desire
Click to Listen on SubstackHost Jessa Zimmerman shares a Soapbox episode outlining 17 reasons a man might have low desire, emphasizing that only one is responsive desire. She covers performance anxiety, low testosterone, needing emotional connection and safety,...
421: Vulnerability as Strength
Click to Listen on SubstackHost Jessa Zimmerman talks with Doug Noll, a former trial lawyer turned peacemaker, about reframing vulnerability as strength through lessons from Tai Chi: the softer you are, the stronger you are, and the more vulnerable you are, the more...
420: Affair Recovery; Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this Soapbox episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses infidelity and what affair recovery can look like. Jessa frames cheating as a “bad solution to a problem” and outlines key milestones for rebuilding trust: the partner who...
419: Formula for Desire in Long-Term Relationships
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Dr. Anna Elton about her book The Formula of Desire and why desire commonly fades in long-term relationships. Elton shares how her research interviewing over...
418: Soapbox – Don’t Accept Sex Your Partner Doesn’t Want
Click to Listen on SubstackHost and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman addresses “sex that’s not worth having,” focusing on situations where a lower-desire partner begrudgingly offers sex with clear disinterest, disconnect, or even hostility. She distinguishes this from...
417: Early Ejaculation is a Shame Pattern
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Michelle Fischler about her upcoming book, “Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer,” arguing early/rapid ejaculation is fundamentally a shame issue and nervous system...
416: Negotiating kinks, fetishes, and non- monogamy
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Sara Perry, a sexological body worker and somatic sex educator, about helping people connect with their bodies, pleasure, and desires and then communicate and negotiate those desires with partners....
415: Polyamory and Parenting
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman welcomes back Candace Sjogren, author of "Polyagony," to discuss how parents can navigate consensual non-monogamy with children. They emphasize that many parents don’t plan for integrating relationship structure...
414: [Soapbox] When a woman is the higher desire partner
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman returns with a soapbox episode on desire discrepancy, focusing on heterosexual relationships where the woman is the higher desire partner. She explains that mismatched desire is normal and common, and that...
413: Stigma, Shame, and Sex
Click to Listen on SubstackHost Jessa Zimmerman interviews New York City sex therapist and trainer Sari Cooper about how sexual stigma and shame are shaped by culture, religion, family dynamics, and implicit messages like silence or lack of affection modeling. Cooper...
412: What couples therapy misses about the body
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Pavini Moray about why somatic approaches are vital in couples and sex therapy, especially when talk therapy leads to over-processing without change. Pavini shares their path from Montessori education...
411: The Book of Ecstasy: Finding Joy and Connection
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Barbara Carrellas, author of The Book of Ecstasy, about ecstasy as a transformative state that goes beyond pleasure, sex, and orgasm into connection, awe, and ego-dissolution. Carrellas describes how...
410: [Soapbox] Tuesday Is Different Than Thursday
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this soapbox episode, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explains why partners can’t rely on a fixed “recipe” for pleasure because desire and sensation change over time and even from day to day—“Tuesday is different than Thursday.” She...
409: Reclaiming Desire After 50
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman talks with Dr. Julie Merriman about her book, Are We Gonna Have Sex or What?, focused on helping women over 50 reclaim pleasure and desire. Merriman explains that decreased libido is often less about menopause...
408: [Soapbox] When Lower Desire is a Mask
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this Soapbox episode, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explores how the common higher-desire/lower-desire framework is helpful but doesn’t always accurately describe what’s happening in a relationship. She outlines two main ways desire can...
407: The science of pleasure, trauma, and longevity
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews functional medicine clinician and neurofeedback specialist Dr. Stephanie Rimka about emotional regulation as a biological process involving safety, the vagus nerve, brainwaves, hormones, and...
406: Gender, Loneliness, and Reconnection
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Anthony Silard back to discuss research-based, average gender differences in relationships, community-building, and loneliness. Silard explains how women tend to have more robust “social convoys” than...
405: The truth about erectile dysfunction
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Johns Hopkins urologic surgeon and researcher Dr. Arthur Burnett about erectile dysfunction from a holistic biopsychosocial perspective. Burnett explains how erections work as a vascular function...
404: [Soapbox] HRT is not primarily about libido
Click to Listen on SubstackIn a soapbox episode, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman clarifies a common misconception that hormone replacement therapy (HRT) is mainly meant to increase libido. Drawing from two recent conversations—one with a post-menopausal client...
403: Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy for Intimacy and Sex
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews therapist Hannah Buzzo about psychedelic-assisted therapy for intimacy and sex, for individuals and couples. Buzzo describes her background in addiction and trauma work (including EMDR), her training...
402: [Soapbox] Good faith communication vs gaslighting
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this soapbox episode, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explains why effective communication requires holding our “reality” loosely, since perception is filtered and interpreted by the brain, and partners often experience the same event...
401: Signs you may be headed for divorce
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews therapist and divorce support group leader Oona Metz about how emotional and sexual disconnection often contributes to divorce, drawing on Metz’s 15 years of work with hundreds of women and her book...
400: [Soapbox] You Have to Care About Your Partner’s Experience
Click to Listen on SubstackIn a soapbox episode, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman argues that a basic foundation of relationships is caring about a partner’s wellbeing and taking their unhappiness seriously, even without agreeing with their interpretation. She explains...
399: How couples can rebuild desire
Click to Listen on SubstackHost and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman talks with Courtney Fay Long about common challenges couples face with desire discrepancy, losing spark, and the pressure–rejection cycle. Long shares how prioritizing sex earlier in the day, expanding...
398: Intimate Conversations: Co-creating Authentic Sexual Experiences
Click to Listen on SubstackHow to Talk About Sex with Your Partner (and Create Emotional Safety) Sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman talks with Dr. Teresa Johnson about why and how couples can have healthier conversations about sex, including desire changes, boundaries,...
397: [Soapbox] Not Tonight and the Seven Dwarves
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses a common dynamic between higher- and lower-desire partners, warning that taking a partner’s “not tonight” personally leads to feeling rejected and eventually showing up as an unsexy “dwarf” (grumpy,...
396: Using NLP to Improve Intimacy
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Josh Davis about neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) as practical, research-supported tools drawn from psychotherapy to improve mindset, communication, and relationship dynamics around intimacy and...
395: [Soapbox] Why the “Devil’s Bargain” Fails: Shared Responsibility for Initiation
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explains David Schnarch’s term “the devil’s bargain,” where the higher desire partner stops initiating sex and leaves initiation entirely to the lower desire partner. She describes three common origins: a...
394: From resentment to forgiveness to love
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Anthony Silard about his book Love and Suffering and how loneliness and disconnection affect relationships. Silard describes a “love progression model” of acceptance, forgiveness, gratitude, and love,...
393: MDMA (Ecstasy) for couples to transform their relationship
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Jonathan Robinson about using MDMA (ecstasy) with couples to accelerate therapy, emphasizing a legal disclaimer and harm reduction. Robinson describes renewed interest in psychedelic therapies, claims...
392: Soapbox – Afraid to find out it’s hopeless
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this soapbox episode of the Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman describes a common barrier to seeking help for sexual issues: the fear that if you “open the box” and really look at your sex life, you might discover it’s...
391: Healing sexual dysfunction through the body
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews pelvic work practitioners Ashley Rose and Martin Beaudoin about how pelvic restrictions and misdiagnosed physical issues can contribute to low libido, anorgasmia, dyspareunia, vulvodynia, pudendal...
390: [Soapbox] Easygoing; hard to live with
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explains how being “easygoing” or people-pleasing—rarely stating preferences and letting a partner decide—can create a hidden burden in relationships. She describes clients who didn’t realize how constant small...
389: Adventures in Polyamory
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Natalie Davis about how her marriage shifted from assumed monogamy to swinging and then polyamory after an affair about 15 years into her relationship. Davis describes early insecurity, rules for...
388: Soapbox – Comfort and Growth Cycles
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this soapbox episode recorded on the road, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman shares a concept from David Schnarch about the natural rhythm of long-term relationships: alternating comfort cycles and growth cycles. Growth cycles require effort,...
387: Bad Marriage Advice
Click to Listen on SubstackOn Better Sex, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews relationship coach Monica Tanner about her book Bad Marriage Advice, written initially for her son before his marriage. Tanner shares how her parents’ divorce and her own early...
386: Soapbox – the plight of the higher desire partner
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the “plight” of the higher-desire partner who wants sex to be part of a loving relationship but feels stuck in a catch-22: bringing it up can be labeled as pushing and create more shutdown, while...
385: 5 love languages in the bedroom
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman talks with Krish Phua, a certified sexologist and intimacy and sexual wellness therapist at Underneath the Moon Singapore, about applying Gary Chapman’s five love languages (physical touch, quality time, acts of...
384: Soapbox – Choose to focus on the anti-fear
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this soapbox episode of Better Sex, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman shares a client-inspired lesson on how fear-based conversations can spiral into a reactive cycle that fuels negativity and creates the outcomes partners most dread. Drawing...
383: Yoni Mapping
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Freya Graf about yoni mapping therapy and how she combines it with internal pelvic release work. Freya shares how her own history of shame, body image struggles, and fear around intimacy led her into...
382: Soapbox – Activities for Connection
Click to Listen on SubstackListen on Substack Sex therapist Jess Zimmerman continues last week’s discussion about the potential of MDMA-assisted couples work, emphasizing she is not encouraging MDMA use because it remains a Schedule I illegal substance outside of...
381: The sure thing – a strategy for intimacy
Click to Listen on SubstackListen on Substack Sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Elana Auerbach about her book, “The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark,” and how a consistent weekly intimacy ritual can rebuild connection in long-term...
380: Soapbox – the potential for mdma in couples work
Click to Listen on Substack Sex therapist Jess Zimmerman shares what she’s learning from a 30-hour training on guiding people who choose to use MDMA (Ecstasy/Molly), emphasizing she is not endorsing illegal substance use and is focused on the research and potential...
379: Mindfulness Based Porn Addiction Recovery
Click to Listen on Substack Sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Jeremy Lipkowitz about porn addiction (or compulsive/problematic porn use) through a Buddhist-informed lens that frames addiction as using rewarding behaviors to escape or numb unpleasant emotions....
378: [Soapbox] When neither of you want sex
Click to Listen on Substack Sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman answers a listener question about what to do when both partners have low desire for sex. She explains that if both people are happy not having sex, there is no problem to solve. If the couple wants sex to be...
377: Menopause BioType – Individualizing Care
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman hosts Dr. Jennifer Berman to discuss menopause, sexual health, and individualized hormone care. Berman explains how witnessing the medical disparity after Viagra’s rise pushed her to pioneer women’s sexual...
376: The Lower Desire Partner Feels Like They Just Can’t Win
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman shares a “soapbox” episode addressing a common belief among lower desire partners: “I can’t win; it’ll never be enough.” She explains this mindset becomes self-defeating when the goalposts are set by the higher...
375: When money stress creates distance in the bedroom
Click to Listen on SubstackSex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Heather Howard, a sexuality counselor and financial coach, about the strong parallels between money and sex in couples’ relationships. Howard shares how pelvic pain shifted her from a finance career...
374: Soapbox – Hope even when your partner doesn’t want to fix it
Click to Listen on Substack In a soapbox episode, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman responds to an email from a listener whose wife says she isn’t interested in fixing their sex life and accuses him of only caring about sex. Jessa explains there can still be hope and...
373: Hormonal Optimization, Metabolic Health, and Longevity for Better Sex
Click to Listen on Substack Sex therapist Jess Zimmerman interviews biohacker and author Jay Campbell about hormone optimization and metabolic health as foundations for wellbeing, longevity, libido, and sexual function. Campbell shares how discovering very low...
372: Soapbox – The three biggest apology mistakes
Click to Listen on Substack Sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman shares a soapbox episode on three common apology mistakes that prevent real relationship repair. First, apologizing too quickly can skip the empathy your partner needs to feel understood, so she encourages...
371: People-pleasing could be killing your sex life
Click to Listen on Substack Sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Darshana Avila (featured on Netflix’s Sex, Love & Goop) about “erotic wholeness,” defined as integrating all parts of ourselves and relating to eroticism as life-force vitality that can fuel...
370: Soapbox – Choose a more empowering story
In this soapbox episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the power of staying positive by questioning the stories and interpretations our brains create. She explains how people often react to filtered, meaning-filled perceptions...
369: Protecting Sexual Freedoms
Click to Listen on Substack Sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Mandy Salley of the Woodhull Foundation about sexual freedom as a human right rooted in bodily autonomy and the ability to say yes or no. Mandy shares how peer sex education in college, graduate...
368: The Power of a Couples’ Intensive
Click to Listen on Substack In this soapbox episode of the Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explains why some couples may benefit from a couples intensive instead of weekly or biweekly therapy. She describes limits of short, spaced-out sessions—often...
367: Supple, Luscious, Fuller Breasts
Click to Listen on Substack Jessa Zimmerman interviews Jillian Wisborg, founder of Booby Grow, about a natural breast growth and firming program combining herbal supplementation, breast/nipple massage, and nutrition changes. Jillian shares that she created the program...
366: Soapbox – should I tell her I took some viagra?
Click to Listen on Substack In this soapbox episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman responds to a coaching-call question: whether to tell a partner when you’ve taken Viagra. She describes a client who has a prescription, experiences no...
365: Polyagony – Mistakes in Non-monogamy
Click to LIsten on Substack In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman speaks with Candace Sjogren about the intricacies and common mistakes involved in polyamory, as addressed in Sjogren’s book, 'Polyagony'. They discuss personal experiences,...
364: Soapbox – Avoid the Quota Trap
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the challenges of setting quotas for sexual frequency in relationships. She shares insights from a recent coaching call, emphasizing that focusing...
363: Anal Sex For Beginners
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist, Jessa Zimmerman, interviews Dr. Evan Goldstein, an expert in anal sexual wellness and author of 'Butt Seriously.' Dr. Goldstein discusses the fundamentals of anal sex for beginners,...
362: What “My Love Language is Sex” Get Wrong
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the focus is on the concept of love languages and their impact on intimate relationships. Zimmerman discusses the common misunderstanding that having...
361: Navigating Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved
Click to LIsten on Substack In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guest Joan Price discusses her book 'Sex After Grief.' Joan shares her personal journey of rekindling her sexual life after the loss of her beloved Robert....
360: They put effort into every other problem
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explores the common misunderstanding surrounding lower desire partners in relationships. She discusses how a lack of evident effort towards sexual intimacy problems is...
359: Working through vaginismus with a surrogate partner
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Junvi Ola, who shares her personal story of overcoming vaginismus, a condition that prevented her from having intercourse until the age of 36. Junvi discusses her...
358: Soapbox – We should be talking about sex
Click to Listen on Substack In this soapbox episode of 'The Better Sex Podcast,' sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman emphasizes the importance of talking about sex more openly. Jessa explores the cultural taboo surrounding discussions about sex and how it leads to feelings...
357: Brain Health and Trauma
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman is joined by psychiatrist Dr. Hector Rodriguez to discuss the effects of trauma on sexual desire, libido, pleasure, and satisfaction. Dr. Rodriguez shares insights on how...
356: Soapbox – The problem with trying to fix your partner’s desire
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses the common issue of differences in sexual desire among couples. She emphasizes the importance of open communication and partnership when addressing this issue, rather...
355: Truly Connecting in this Digital Age
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Dr. Jacquie Del Rosario about the invasive impact of technology on relationships. They discuss how excessive screen time can weaken intimacy and emotional...
354: Strategic Keys to Peak Sexual Performance
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, legendary adult film actor Mitch Hartwell shares his unique insights on male sexual performance. Drawing from his two-decade career in the adult film...
353: Soapbox – We don’t have to decide right now
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses a practical strategy for improving communication and collaboration in intimate relationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding each other's...
352: Act pregnant now to get pregnant later
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host Jess Zimmerman, a sex therapist, speaks with Gabriela Rosa about overcoming difficult fertility challenges. Rosa shares her journey into the field of infertility, which started with a broad interest in...
351 Soapbox – Don’t apologize too fast
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the concept of not apologizing too quickly in intimate relationships. She explains why immediate apologies can often miss the mark and how important...
350: Coming out later in life with Emily Rich
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman is joined by Emily Rich, who shares her personal journey of questioning her sexuality and coming out later in life. Emily discusses the factors that disconnected her from her...
349: Soapbox – The problem with Sensate Focus
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman critiques the traditional sensate focus technique frequently recommended in sex therapy. She outlines her concerns about its sequential, goal-oriented nature, the problematic idea...
348: Dealing with Rapid Ejaculation
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman is joined by sexual wellness coach Andre Lazarus to discuss rapid ejaculation, formerly known as premature ejaculation. They explore how this condition impacts...
347: Soapbox – Are we even watching the same thing
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman addresses a fascinating question from a coaching call about whether couples receive the same information from the same course. She explains how different...
346: Connection and Intimacy after Addiction and Trauma with Vanessa Carlisle
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman engages in a meaningful conversation with Vanessa Carlisle about reclaiming intimacy and pleasure after addiction and trauma. Vanessa discusses her personal and professional...
345: Loving the partner we have with Dr. Corey Allan
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes guest Cory Allen to discuss the concept of learning to love the spouse you have, rather than an idealized version of them. They delve into topics such as managing...
344: Soapbox – What if I have zero desire for sex?
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the focus is on helping partners with low or zero libido. Jessa discusses strategies to uncover obstacles that block desire, such as health issues, trauma,...
343: Sex after prostate cancer treatment with Dr. Jennifer Valli
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman talks with Dr. Jennifer Valli about the impact of prostate cancer and its treatments on sexual health. Dr. Valli shares insights from her personal and...
342 Soapbox the magic key of empathizing with the lower desire partner
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist and host Jessa Zimmerman explores the critical importance of focusing on the lower desire partner in relationships struggling with mismatched libidos and desire discrepancy. Drawing...
341 Liberating the Full Orgasm Reflex with Rob Kancler
Click to Listen on SubstackWelcome back to the Better Sex Podcast! In this powerful episode, host Jessa Zimmerman reunites with returning guest Rob Kancler for an in-depth conversation about transforming your intimate life through body-based practices.WHAT YOU'LL...
340: Soapbox – Menopause is a destination
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this soapbox episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman addresses the common misconception that menopause is a temporary phase. She explains that menopause is a permanent change, where hormone production reverts to levels...
339: Sexual Emergence -Twists in understanding ourselves
Click to Listen on SubstackJessa Zimmerman, host of Better Sex, welcomes back Jess Levith to discuss 'sexual emergence' – the fluid nature of sexuality and its changes over time. They delve into personal experiences and professional insights, covering the impact of...
338: [Soapbox] The problem with saying “you’re not meeting my needs”
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of The Betters Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the focus is on exploring the implications of framing sexual desires as needs within intimate relationships. Jessa discusses the potential problems that...
337: From infidelity to full f&ck yes with Britton and Carolee Beckham
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guests Britton and Carolee share their transformative journey from a strict Mormon upbringing to a deeply connected and sexually fulfilling relationship....
336: What makes a healthy sexual relationship
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explores what it means to have a healthy sexual relationship. She introduces the six principles of sexual health as identified by the World Health Organization:...
335: Rewriting Sexual Scripts with Lauren Elise Rogers
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Lauren Elise Rogers, a certified holistic sexuality educator and intimacy coach. They discuss the journey from a sex-negative upbringing to crafting a fulfilling and...
334: Soapbox – What to do about the lack of sex in your relationship?
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, listeners are guided through the complexities behind the lack of sexual intimacy in relationships. Zimmerman discusses the factors that contribute to this issue, such as...
333: Exploring Sexuality Through Writing with Tash Doherty
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes author Tash Doherty to discuss her work on a spicy coming-of-age novel and a sex writing journal. Doherty shares her goal of helping people explore their sexuality and...
332: Soapbox – Why do women fake orgasm
Click to Listen on SubstackWhy do women fake orgasm — and what does it really mean for the relationship? In this video, we dive deep into the real reasons women pretend to climax, from avoiding conflict and protecting their partner’s ego to feeling pressure to...
331: Should you take HRT? with Dr. Sarah Daccarett
Click to Listen on SubstackShould You Take HRT? | Hormone Replacement, Menopause & Perimenopause Explained Are you navigating perimenopause or menopause and wondering, “should I take HRT?” In this video, Dr. Sarah Daccarett and I break down hormone replacement...
330: Soapbox – Can a sexless marriage be happy?
Click to Listen on SubstackCan a Sexless Marriage Be Happy? | Understanding Low Desire, Intimacy, and Relationship Satisfaction Can a marriage without sex still be a happy one? In this episode, we explore what it really means to be in a sexless marriage—from couples...
329: Sex Attractant Pheromones with Dr. Winnifred Cutler
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Dr. Winnifred Cutler to discuss her extensive research on pheromones and their impact on human sexuality. Dr. Cutler, a passionate researcher, shares her journey from...
328 – Soapbox – Change takes practice
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the crucial role of experiential practice in improving intimate relationships. She underscores the importance of embodying the knowledge gained...
327: The role of sex toys in women’s sexual trauma recovery with Dr. Holly Wood
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of 'Better Sex,' host sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman engages in a compelling conversation with Dr. Holly Wood about her research on the use of sex toys in the healing journey of sexual trauma survivors. Dr. Wood shares her...
326: Soapbox – How to bring up going to sex therapy
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman addresses the challenging topic of how to approach your partner about going to sex therapy. Drawing from her experience with clients, Jessa provides valuable...
325: Exploring Human Sexual Potential with Rob Kancler
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman is joined by Rob Kancler to discuss the potential for human sexual experience and the steps needed to enhance intimate relationships. Rob shares insights on how...
324: Soapbox – Think of sex like tapas
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the importance of moving away from a goal-oriented, all-or-nothing approach to sex. She explains how this mindset can be a barrier for partners with...
323: Gay Relationships and Intimacy with Tom Bruett
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host, and sex therapist, Jessa Zimmerman, talks to therapist Tom Bruett about the unique aspects and challenges of gay male relationships and sex life. Tom discusses the nuances of gay...
322: Soapbox – The importance of celebrating ‘no’
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman delves into the importance of being able to say 'no' in intimate relationships. She discusses how the ability to decline is crucial for fostering a healthy and...
321: Understanding sexual pain in people with penises
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the 'Better Sex' podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman talks with Dr. Susie Gronski about the role of pelvic floor physical therapy for men, particularly focusing on pelvic pain. Dr. Gronski shares her journey into the field,...
320: Soapbox – Is there hope for my sex life?
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman tackles one of the most common and vulnerable questions: “Is there hope for my sex life?” Jessa explores the roots of hopelessness in intimate relationships, explains how...
319: Sex after childbirth with Stephanie Konter-O’hara
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the guest is Stephanie Konter-O'Hara, a therapist and mother of a 19-month-old baby. Stephanie shares her personal and professional insights on how having...
318: Soapbox – Are you more attached to your partner’s orgasm than they are?
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of 'Better Sex,' host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the common issue of being overly focused on pleasing one's partner in a sexual relationship. She explores how this can lead to unintended pressure, diminishing...
317: Sex Therapy in the Digital Age with Vanessa Cushing
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman speaks with ASSECT certified sex therapist Vanessa Cushing about her new innovative project, Sex Therapy Pro—an online closed AI resource and soon-to-be app. They discuss the...
316: Soapbox: How healthy is your sex life?
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explores what it truly means to have a healthy sex life. She challenges the common misconception that frequency alone defines a healthy sexual relationship and...
315: Stories of Compassionate Sex Work with Remi Newman and Lilith Foxx
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jess Zimmerman speaks with Lilith Foxx and Remi Newman about their new anthology, 'Hands-On.' The book is a collection of stories from sex workers that highlight the compassion, connection,...
314: Soapbox – What’s under the anger
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman dives into the concept of anger as a secondary emotion. She discusses how anger often masks more vulnerable feelings like fear, sadness, hurt, and shame. Zimmerman explains the...
313: Psychedelic Pleasure Liberation with Dr. Nicole Thompson
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Dr. Nicole Thompson about her journey from purity culture to sexual liberation, focusing on how psychedelics can aid in this transition. They discuss the impact of purity...
312: Soapbox – Measure sexual desire in the middle
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the concept of proactive versus reactive desire in intimate relationships. She delves into how these different types of desires function and the importance of...
311: Overcoming negative sentiment override
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guest Zach Brittle, a couples therapist, dives into the concept of negative sentiment override (NSO) in relationships. Brittle discusses the difference between personal...
310: Soapbox – 5 Signs you need to focus on your relationship first
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses the signs that a troubled sex life might be affecting your overall relationship. Jessa identifies key indicators such as resistance to discussing sex, avoidance of...
309: Staying married is the hardest part with Bonnie Comfort
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman talks with psychologist and couples counselor Bonnie Comfort about her book 'Staying Married is the Hardest Part,' which delves into the complexities of her 30-year marriage....
308: Soapbox – Preset limits are as unhelpful as expectations
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist, Jessa Zimmerman, discusses the concept of reactive desire, where individuals may not initially feel in the mood for sex but can become aroused through the process. She...
307: Issues that impact women’s desire with Dr. Jenn Kennedy
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Dr. Jenn Kennedy to discuss the specific challenges women face around sexual desire. Dr. Kennedy shares her passion for women's health and the importance of inclusive research. Key...
306: Soapbox – Address emotional intimacy first
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses the importance of addressing and repairing intimacy and connection in a relationship before focusing on improving one's sex life. She talks about the common issues...
305: Body image in the LGBTQ community with Nick Demos
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman speaks with Nick Demos about his new documentary, 'Body Electric,' which delves into body image issues within the queer community. The discussion covers the unique challenges...
304: Soapbox episode- Sex not worth having
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses a common issue faced by couples: the lower desire partner consistently having sex to meet their partner’s needs, leading to resentment. Jessa shares...
303: Gender Gap in Sexual Dysfunction Treatment with Dr. Maria Sophocles
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman engages in a comprehensive discussion with Dr. Maria Sophocles, an OB GYN specialized in menopause and women's sexual health. They explore the often neglected...
302: Soapbox – Desire is not the same as attraction
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the often misunderstood distinction between desire and attraction in intimate relationships. Zimmerman explains how many people confuse a decrease in...
301: Embodied Receiving with Roz Dischiavo
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host Jess Zimmerman engages in a deep conversation with Rosalyn Dischiavo, who runs the Institute for Sexuality Education and Enlightenment. They discuss Ros's journey into sexuality education, the five levels...
300: Soapbox – The power of positivity
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman delves into the power of positivity and its impact on sexual relationships. Discussing common struggles faced by couples, Jessa emphasizes the importance of...
299: Men, Infidelity, and Disenfranchised Grief with Dr. Elliott Kronenfeld
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman delves into the intricacies of infidelity recovery with Dr. Elliott Kronenfeld. They discuss the complex emotions and traumas associated with infidelity, the process of rebuilding trust and...
298: Soapbox – You and your partner may start with different goals
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses the different challenges faced by partners with differing levels of sexual desire. She explains the emotional impact on both higher and lower desire individuals and...
297: Revitalizing your sex life when you have young kids with Lauren Ditzian
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses how parents can maintain a thriving sex life despite the challenges of raising young kids. Joined by special guest Lauren Ditzian, a couples and sex therapist, they explore common...
296: Personal story – our six year drought is over
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman welcomes a former student who shares his personal journey of overcoming years of intimacy struggles in his marriage. The guest recounts how early retirement...
295: Root Causes of Erectile Dysfunction with Dr. Anne Truong
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman and guest Dr. Anne discuss the prevalence of erectile dysfunction (ED), its underlying causes, and various treatment strategies. They explore how lifestyle changes, such as diet and...
294: Soapbox – Who is ready to transform their sex life
Click to Listen on SubstackJoin sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman in this episode of the Better Sex Podcast as she explores how otherwise happy couples can transform their sex lives. With 15 years of experience and working with over a thousand couples, Jessa shares...
293: Men, Sex and Vulnerability with Paul Abramowitz
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes back Dr. Paul Abramowitz for a deep dive into vulnerability in men and its impact on their intimate relationships. They explore the different stages of male development...
292: Soapbox – Don’t believe everything you think
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman dives into the concept of questioning our thoughts, which she argues is crucial for enhancing intimate relationships. Using the acronym CT FAR (Circumstances, Thoughts,...
291: Misconceptions around Hormone Replacement Therapy with Dr. Kelly Casperson
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman chats with urologist and women's sexual health advocate Dr. Kelly Casperson. They delve into the myths and fears surrounding hormone replacement therapy (HRT), particularly...
290: Women Writing Erotica
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman delves into the topic of eroticism and the empowering act of writing one's own erotica. She discusses how writing personal erotic stories can help individuals explore their...
289: Navigating Faith Transition as a Couple with Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses faith transitions and the impact on intimate relationships with guests Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema, co-hosts of the Sex Evangelicals podcast and...
288: Soapbox – Exploring eroticism with your partner
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman delves into the fun and crucial topic of eroticism. Building on her previous discussion of nine competencies necessary for a great sex life, Jessa focuses...
287: Freedom from body shame with Nikita Fernandes
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses body acceptance, freedom from body shame, and the broader implications on sexual intimacy and pleasure with guest sex therapist Nikita Fernandes. They explore the sources and...
286: Soapbox – Sex is more than physical release
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the significance of sex in intimate relationships. Addressing the common concern from lower desire partners who often feel misunderstood or inadequate,...
285: Sexual Empowerment with Ann Russo
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Ann Russo, an expert on sexual empowerment. They discuss the concept of sexual empowerment, its importance for individuals across different sexual orientations and...
284: Soapbox – Are you entitled to sex in your relationship?
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman addresses the complex question of whether individuals are entitled to sex within their relationships. She explores both sides of the argument, emphasizing the importance of...
283: Peak pleasure – how to achieve flow in the bedroom with Dr. Emily Jamea
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman speaks with couples and sex therapist Dr. Emily Jamea about her new book, 'Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion.' They discuss the concept...
282: Soapbox – The plight of the lower desire partner
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the challenges faced by the lower desire partner in a relationship. She addresses the common issue of desire discrepancy and emphasizes the...
281: Permanent side effects of commonly prescribed medications with Dr. Irwin Goldstein
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host sex therapist, Jessa Zimmerman, engages in a thought-provoking conversation with Dr. Irwin Goldstein from the San Diego Sexual Medicine Clinic. They discuss the often overlooked and lasting...
280: Soapbox – Using the giver-receiver exercise for growth
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses how to use the giver receiver exercise for personal and relational growth. Jessa provides detailed insights on recognizing personal progress, identifying...
279: Kink, BDSM, and Mental Health with AJ Cheyfitz
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews AJ Cheyfitz about kink and BDSM, discussing misconceptions, mental health, and trauma-related aspects. They explore how individuals can safely engage in kink, the importance of...
278: Soapbox – Go to the “playground”
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this 'soapbox' episode of Better Sex, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the concept of transforming sexual encounters into playful, pressure-free experiences akin to visiting a playground. Highlighting the pitfalls of goal-oriented...
277: Pole dancing and sexual expression with Elle Hamilton Wohl
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman converses with Elle Hamilton Wohl about the multifaceted benefits of pole dancing. Wohl details how this practice serves as a powerful means of embodying sensual...
276: Soapbox – The most powerful exercise for change
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the importance of experiential practice in improving intimate relationships. She introduces the Giver-Receiver Exercise, a powerful tool from her sex...
275: Negative effects of hormonal birth control with Mia Neustein
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman delves deep into the topic of hormonal birth control with nurse practitioner Mia Neustein from San Diego Sexual Medicine. The discussion covers various forms of hormonal and...
274: Soapbox – 9 skills for great sex
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses nine essential competencies for creating and maintaining a great sex life. Jessa emphasizes the importance of prioritizing intimacy, effective communication...
273: People pleasing with Bea Albina
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman talks with Bea Albina about 'emotional outsourcing' - a concept she coined to describe chronic people-pleasing and codependency. Bea shares her personal journey of detachment...
272: Soapbox – Escaping the sexual avoidance cycle
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman delves into the sexual avoidance cycle, a term she coined to describe a common issue in intimate relationships. She explains how negative experiences and unmet...
271: Men are hardwired by nature with Paul Abramowitz
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman talks with Paul Abramowitz, author of 'Sexed: Hardwired by Nature, Evolving by Choice,' about the intrinsic preoccupation men have with sex due to biological hardwiring. They...
271: Men are hardwired by nature with Paul Abramowitz
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman talks with Paul Abramowitz, author of 'Sexed: Hardwired by Nature, Evolving by Choice,' about the intrinsic preoccupation men have with sex due to biological hardwiring. They discuss how this drive...
270: Soapbox – Reactive desire
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this solo episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the spotlight is on the two distinct types of sexual desire—proactive and reactive. Zimmerman explains how proactive desire involves thinking about sex...
269: Overcoming anxiety in sex with Paula Leech
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman is joined by Paula Leech, a therapist and author who returns to discuss her book on overcoming anxiety in sex and relationships. The conversation delves into how anxiety...
268: Soapbox – Desire discrepancy pitfalls
Click to Listen on SubstackNavigating Desire Discrepancy: Common Traps and Solutions In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the universal issue of desire discrepancy in intimate relationships. Jessa explains where libido...
267: Keys to pleasure with Susan Morgan Taylor
Click to Listen on SubstackJoin host Jessa Zimmerman on the Better Sex Podcast as she interviews sex therapist Susan Morgan Taylor. They discuss the concept of blocks to pleasure and how different types of tension—mental, emotional, and physical—can impede sexual...
266: Soapbox – Desire discrepancy 101
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the nature of desire discrepancy in intimate relationships. She explains what desire discrepancy is, how it can emerge over time in all couples, and...
265: Navigating Life Transitions and Libido with EJ and Tarah Kerwin
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman engages in a deep conversation with married couple and therapists EJ and Tarah Kerwin. They discuss the impact of major life changes, such as pregnancy,...
264: Soapbox – The HSDD diagnosis pisses me off
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the BetterSex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the concept of hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD). Jessa delves into why she believes HSDD should not be classified as a disorder, arguing that...
263: Menopause before and after with Susan Goldstein
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Susan Goldstein, a sexuality educator at the San Diego Sexual Medicine Clinic. The conversation delves into the intricacies of menopause, including personal stories...
262: Normalizing kink with Emma Xin Velicky
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Emma Xin Velicky about how to explore fantasies and kink interests within a loving relationship. Emma shares her personal journey to kink, discusses defining kink and...
261:Vaginal Gymnastics with Bel di Lorenzo
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Bel di Lorenzo to discuss the concept of vaginal gymnastics. Bel shares her journey into this unique practice, from personal struggles in a past relationship to...
260: Benefits of reading erotica with Avalon Lust
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses the impact of written erotica on mental stimulation and sexual desire with her guest, erotic author Avalon Lust. Avalon shares her journey from writing romance to...
259: Somatic Approaches to Anxiety During Sex with Indigo Stray Conger
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews sex therapist Indigo Stray Conger about the impacts of anxiety on sexual experiences. They delve into the common sexual concerns clients bring, such as libido...
258: Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex with host Jessa Zimmerman, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Dr. Irwin Goldstein to discuss Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder (PGAD). They explore the history, symptoms, and numerous potential causes of...
257: Non-Monogamy and Sex Addiction with Ari Lewis
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Ari Lewis to discuss the often conflated topics of consensual non-monogamy and compulsive sexual behavior. They delve into the misconceptions and stereotypes...
256: Trans Attraction with Dr. Herb Coleman
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman engages in a compelling conversation with Herb Coleman on the topic of trans attraction or trans amorousness. Herb shares his journey into this area, beginning with his academic...
255: Psychedelic Sex Therapy with Dr. Steven Radowitz
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman is joined by Dr. Steven Radowitz, a primary care doctor and ketamine clinic practitioner. They delve into the use of psychedelic drugs, particularly ketamine, in therapy and how...
254: Sex after first baby with Dr. Ashley Staats
Click to Listen on SubstackJoin host Jessa Zimmerman on the Better Sex podcast as she converses with Dr. Ashley Staats about the challenges of maintaining intimacy after the birth of a child, particularly the first baby. The discussion dives into common myths, like...
253: Sexual Sovereignty and Pleasure with Dr. Saida Desilets
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman speaks with Dr. Saida Désilets about women's sexual pleasure and the idea of sexual sovereignty. Dr. Désilets shares her personal journey starting from childhood, discussing the impacts of...
252: Exploring sex, shame and addiction with the SAT project
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode, the host talks with Michael Crocker, Sean Peknic, and Ari Lewis from the Sexuality Attachment and Trauma Project (SAT Project) about issues related to shame, sex, and addiction. The discussion begins with introductions,...
251: Better sex through science with Molly Maloof
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, Jessa Zimmerman interviews Dr. Molly Maloof, a physician who explores the significant impact of relationships on health and longevity. Dr. Maloof delves into the connection between human relationships and...
250: Fascia for Better Sex with Anna Rahe
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman engages in a detailed discussion with Anna Rahe about fascia, a system of connective tissues in the body. They explore how fascia impacts sexual health, pain, pleasure, flexibility, and...
249: Healing from sex negative religion with Beverly Dale
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman talks with Reverend Beverly Dale, who discusses her journey in helping people heal from sex-negative teachings in religion. They explore how sexuality and spirituality intersect,...
248 accelerated resolution therapy for sexual trauma with brooke bralove
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman is joined by psychotherapist Brooke Bralove to discuss Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) and its transformative power in addressing sexual trauma and enhancing intimacy. They...
247 how stress blocks desire with Danielle Savory
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman engages with mindfulness and pleasure coach Danielle Savory to explore the intertwined roles of mindfulness, self-compassion, and stress management in enhancing sexual desire...
246 elevating sexual pleasure with aaron michael
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this enlightening episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman converses with sex and relationship coach Aaron Michael. The discussion unpacks Aaron's journey into sexual health, beginning with his experiences in massage...
245: Reverse menopause symptoms with Dr. Irwin Goldstein
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Dr. Irwin Goldstein (Dr, G(, a pioneer in sexual medicine, to discuss the intricacies of menopause and women's sexual health. The conversation delves into the hormonal changes...
244: The Art of Listening with Christine Miles
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Christine Miles, an expert in the skill of listening, to discuss its significance in intimate relationships and beyond. The conversation delves into the importance of actively...
243: Talking to Kids About Sex with Melissa Kilbride
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman speaks with Melissa Kilbride about the importance of open and honest conversations with children regarding sex, sexuality, and pornography. Melissa shares her background in...
242: Overcoming religious sexual shame with Natasha Helfer
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman chats with sex therapist Natasha Helfer about religious sexual shame. They discuss its origins, the impact it has on individuals, and ways to overcome it. Natasha shares...
241: Sex and our stress response with Rachel Posner
Click to Listen on SubstackUnderstanding Stress Responses and Mindfulness in Intimate Relationships In this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Rachel Posner, who discusses the importance of understanding and managing...
240 making and keeping agreements with martha kauppi
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes back guest Martha Kauppi for a vibrant discussion on the art of making and keeping agreements in relationships. They explore the importance of having explicit...
239: Peyronie’s Disease with Dr. Irwin Goldstein
Click to Listen on SubstackUnderstanding Peyronie's Disease with Dr. Irwin Goldstein In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses Peyronie's disease with Dr. Irwin Goldstein, a pioneer in sexual medicine. They explore the causes,...
238: Spicing up your sex life with Dan Purcell
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, Jessa Zimmerman is joined by Dan Purcell, creator of the app Intimately Us, to discuss how to truly spice up your sex life through intimacy and personal growth. Dan shares his personal journey and...
237 Understanding Your Relationship with Alex Iantaffi
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of BetterSex, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes guest Alex Iantaffi, co-author of 'Understanding Your Relationship.' They discuss the concept of 17 different types of intimacy, exploring their importance and how individuals can...
236 transformative handjob
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Lee Jagger, a sex coach specializing in helping women with male partners. Lee shares her journey from an unexpected start in erotic massage to becoming an expert with...
235: Porn Literacy with Diane Gleim
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman is joined by expert Diane Gleim to discuss the concept of porn literacy. Diane explains the importance of understanding porn as a form of entertainment and not...
234: Overcoming sexual inhibitions with Martha Tara Lee
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman chats with certified sexuality educator Martha Tara Lee about overcoming sexual inhibitions, particularly in Asian cultures. They discuss the impact of cultural, religious, and educational...
233: Talking to your doctor about sex with Maureen Ryan
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of BetterSex, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews nurse practitioner and sexual health expert, Maureen Ryan. Topics include the importance of discussing sexual health with medical providers, tips for patients to advocate for...
232: Repair after Relationship Rupture with Chelsea Burton
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of BetterSex, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes therapist and sex expert Chelsea Burton to discuss the concept of relationship ruptures and how to repair them. The conversation covers both major ruptures like infidelity and...
231: Am I Normal & other FAQ with Michael Castleman
Click to Listen on SubstackAm I Normal? Exploring Common Sexual Concerns with Michael Castleman In this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes back Michael Castleman to discuss the most frequently asked questions about sex that he has received over the...
230: Sexual Behavior Analysis with Nicholas Maio-Aether
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Nicholas Maio-Aether, a pioneer in sexual behavior analysis. They dive into the behavioral approach to changing sexual behaviors, emphasizing consensual goal-setting...
229: Overcoming Purity Culture with Esther Hooley
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman talks with Esther Hooley to address the impacts of purity culture on individuals and their sexuality. They explore how purity culture influences sexual scripts, the resulting shame, and...
228: The Orgasm Gap Revisited – Dr. Laurie Mintz
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of Better Sex, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the topic of discussion is the orgasm gap between heterosexual men and women. Joined by Dr. Laurie Mintz, an expert who wrote 'Becoming Cliterate', they explore the...
227: The Cure for ED with Dr. Jeff Nuziard
Click to Listen on SubstackUnderstanding and Treating Erectile Dysfunction with Dr. Jeff Nuziard In this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Dr. Jeff Nuziard to discuss erectile dysfunction (ED). They delve into the misconceptions around ED,...
#226: Healing After Infidelity with Rich Heller
Click to Listen on SubstackHealing After Infidelity: Insights and Strategies with Rich Heller In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman welcomes back relationship expert Rich Heller to discuss the complex issue of infidelity...
#225 – Boozy Bestie Advice for Sex and Relationships – Desiree Simone
Click to Listen on SubstackBoozy Bestie Advice for Sex and Relationships For the last episode of the Better Sex Podcast, blogger Desiree Simone shares her journey on divorce and how it led to her blogging her feelings as she was going through the process. More than a...
#224 – Pregnancy and Postpartum Challenges for Sex – Paula Leech
Click to Listen on SubstackPaula Leech Pregnancy and Postpartum Challenges for Sex In the quest to know the various kinds of things that get in the way of sexual desire, sex therapist Paula Leech walks us through two situations that probably have the most profound...
#223 – Premature Ejaculation – Keeley Rankin
Click to Listen on SubstackPremature Ejaculation Keeley Rankin joins me in a conversation to talk about solutions for Premature Ejaculation. She talks about the anxiety attached to this problem, various approaches and why they don’t work, and her five-model approach...
#222 – Testosterone for Women – Dr. Matt Chalmers
Click to Listen on SubstackTestosterone for Women This episode talks about hormones and how it affects sexual function and overall health of women in particular. Dr. Matt Chalmers explains two primary hormones in women, testosterone and estrogen, and what we can do...
#221 – Sexual Communication – Dr. Tara
Click to Listen on SubstackSexual Communication Do you know the real secret to having an amazing sex life? After years of research and talking to thousands of respondents, Dr. Tara might have unlocked the answer to that big question. Learn what you can do to start...
#220 – Body Freedom – Elizabeth Dall
Click to Listen on SubstackBody Freedom Elizabeth Dall talks about “body freedom,” the antidote to body shame and self-consciousness that many of us, if not all, experience at some point in our life. Body image issues affect mostly women and are often a great barrier...
#219 – No, this is not your soul mate – Tracy Crossley
Click to Listen on SubstackThis is not your soul mate How we were raised as kids, how consistent our parents (or caretakers) were, and how safe and loved we felt when we were young can shape our attachment style during our adulthood. Tracey Crossley walks us through...
#218 [Personal Story] A Journey Through Miscarriage – Jessica
Click to Listen on SubstackA Journey Through Miscarriage This episode talks about a very sensitive topic – miscarriage. Losing a baby is heartbreaking, no matter when it happens, and Jessica bravely shares her experience when she and her husband lost their baby. She...
#217 – Overcoming Anger and Resentment – Rich Heller
Click to Listen on SubstackRich Heller Overcoming Anger and Resentment “Conflict Coach” Rich Heller enlightens us on resentment, anger, and other negativities that couples can get into that can get in the way of their sex life. If you or your partner is buried in...
#216 – Co-Creating a Sex Life Over Time – Chelsea Wakefield
Click to Listen on SubstackChelsea Wakefield Co-Creating a Sex Life Over Time What does it really take to make a sex life last? How do archetypes about sex, expectations, and love capacities all come together to be a starting point for you and your partner to have...
#215 – The Wonderful World of Sex Toys – Searah Deysach
Click to Listen on SubstackThe World of Sex Toys Sex educator, Searah Deysach, takes us to the fun and playful world of sex toys. Founder and owner of Early to Bed, Chicago’s first woman-owned sex shop that sells high-quality sex toys, Searah shares her expertise on...
#214 – Self-Leadership and Erotic Rope Play – Edward Willey
Click to Listen on SubstackErotic Rope Play as Self Leadership and Intimacy Edward Willey talks about his seemingly two separate interests and pursuits – rope play and self-leadership – and his ingenious idea of combining them together to develop and practice. How do...
#213 – Shameless Parenting – Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers
Click to Listen on SubstackShameless Parenting Many parents find normal sex behavior and development confusing. Parents often wonder if their child’s sexual behavior is normal. Certified sex therapist Dr. Tina Sellers talks about parenting and sexual health and give...
#212 – Performance Anxiety – David Khalili
Click to Listen on SubstackDavid Khalili Performance Anxiety Feeling anxious before sex is normal. But how about feeling nervous that you cannot have or enjoy sex for fear that you will be unable to “perform” during sexual activities? Sex therapist David Khalili...
#211 – Juicing up Your Sex Life – Alicia Davon
Click to Listen on SubstackAlicia Davon Juicing Up Your Sex Life A fun topic today. This one's about juicing up your relationship, enlivening it again. Or if you're single, preparing for when you are in a relationship. My guest is Alicia Davon. She and her husband...
#210 – Colonization and its Impact on Modern Sexuality – Anne Mauro
Click to Listen on SubstackColonization and Its Impact on Modern Sexuality We tend to think of colonization as something that happened and is over and is done, without realizing that it set up processes and expectations, beliefs, and systems of thought that we are...
#209 – Pleasure beyond your comfort zone – Court Vox
Click to Listen on SubstackPleasure beyond your comfort zone Somatic sex educator and sex coach Court Vox helps his clients to find the ‘sweet spot’ in their sex lives, and life in general. The sweet spot is a place that can be uncomfortable, but also exciting. This...
#208 – Endometriosis – Dr. Allyson Shrikhande
Click to Listen on SubstackEndometriosis Dr. Allyson Shrikhande, a rehabilitation doctor who specializes in pelvic rehabilitation medicine, gives us an in-depth discussion about endometriosis. What is endometriosis, the disorder affecting one out of ten women? How...
#207 – Hookup Without Heartbreak – Lia Holmgren
Click to Listen on SubstackHookup without Heartbreak Intimacy and relationship coach Lia Holmgren’s new book, Hookup Without Heartbreak, teaches women to let go of negative feelings after casual hook ups/sex, as well as how to reclaim one’s sexual freedom. Learn the...
#206 – Vaginal Rejuvenation – Dr. Kanwal Bawa
Click to Listen on SubstackVaginal Rejuvenation Dr. Kanwal Bawa talks about sexual health and wellness, particularly vaginal rejuvenation, to improve relationships and the sexual experience. Known as ‘Dr. Sex Fairy’ due to her patients’ incredible sexual wellness...
#205 – Sex as a Widow – Krista St-Germain
Click to Listen on SubstackSex as a Widow Master Certified Life Coach, Krista St-Germain, gives advice on how to deal with grief after losing a life partner. In this episode, we will talk about sex after loss and how it fits into the grieving process. How do you...
#204 – Healing Your Sex Life Through the Unconscious Mind – Dr. Tonia Winchester
Click to Listen on SubstackHealing Your Sex Life Through the Unconscious Mind Dr. Tonia Winchester has been a naturopathic doctor for 15 years. This episode will explore brain-based coaching, and how people can really achieve breakthroughs and get out of patterns...
#203 – Why Selfish is Good for Sex – Dr. Laura Dabney
Click to Listen on SubstackDr. Laura Dabney Why Selfish is Good for Sex In this episode, Dr Laura Dabney explains the importance of selfishness in a relationship. Despite its negative connotation, being selfish can actually make you a better person and partner....
#202 – Dates & Mates – Damona Hoffman
Click to Listen on SubstackDates and Mates In this episode, we take a closer look at the exciting world of dating – from using different dating apps to tackling difficult conversations and navigating the dating scene amid a pandemic. Life and dating coach Damona...
#201 – Barriers to Female Sexual Pleasure – Kristine D’Angelo
Click to Listen on SubstackBarriers to Female Sexual Pleasure Certified sex coach Kristine D’Angelo talks about pleasure and feeling empowered when it comes to sex, especially for vagina owners. Conversationally, she tackles the most common barriers for vagina owners...
#200 – Sex & Veterans – Asya Brodsky
Click to Listen on SubstackSex & Veterans In this episode, Asya Brodsky gives insight into sexual issues and concerns with veterans. From injuries, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or military sexual trauma (MST), Brodsky explains how these experiences can...
#199 – Cross Dressing – Dr. Carol Clark
Click to Listen on SubstackCross Dressing In this fascinating episode, board certified sex therapist and addictions counselor Dr. Carol Clark helps us demystify the concept of cross dressing and take away the stigma and shame commonly associated with it. If you or...
#198 – Racism and Sexual Health – Kristian Holmes
Click to Listen on SubstackRacism and Sexual Health In this episode we talk to Kristian Holmes, a therapist who is a person of color. We dive deep into racism and emotional and mental health, especially for people of color and/or disadvantaged people in general....
#197 – Guided by Glow – Sayra Player
Click to Listen on SubstackActress Sayra Player takes us into a different level of meditation. We discuss tapping into our imagination to inspire creativity with masturbation and getting in touch with our body and sensations. Along with a team of writers, actors,...
#196 – Bodyfullness – Dr. Rachel Allyn
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode, Dr. Rachel Allyn, a holistic psychologist, and pleasure expert, walks me through the concept of “bodyfullness.” Sharing some personal experiences, she talks about how embodied mindfulness can help us heal our traumas,...
#195 – ADD and Sex – Lisa Schwartz
Click to Listen on SubstackADD and Sex Lisa Schwartz is here with me to talk about the intersection of ADD/ADHD with relationships and sex. We go over how ADD/ADHD can show up in various ways, strategies to build an intimate relationship, and how ADD is not just a...
#194 – Navigating Parenting Differences – Rachel Duffy
Click to Listen on Substack Rachel Duffy brings in actionable tips to navigate parenting that not only enriches your relationship with your children, but also unlock some of the barriers to your sex life. We discuss parenting issues, how to correct behavior, and...
#193 – Pleasure as a Means of Healing Trauma – Kathy Slaughter
Click to Listen on SubstackPleasure as a Means to Healing Trauma Kathy Slaughter introduces an interesting way of integrating pleasure, in both sexual and everyday activities, as a way to heal from trauma. She talks about what trauma does to our body and mind, how to...
#192 – Men Raped by Women – Kelvin Pace
Click to Listen on SubstackMen Raped by Women Breaking myths about male victims of sexual assault, Kelvin Pace joins me in talking about changed parameters, frequency, the societal narrative of men raped by women, the path to healing, and resources of support. What...
#191 – Letting In Vs. Letting Go – Benson Fox
Click to Listen on SubstackTrauma: Letting in vs Letting Go Benson Fox; a transformational coach, therapist extern, a psych major, and a current doctoral student of Adelphi university, guides people and helps them to embrace all parts of themselves. He talks about...
#190 – Hormones are Your Superpower – Dr. Stephanie Estima
Click to Listen on SubstackHormones are Your Superpower Dr. Stephanie Estima, author of the book The Betty Body: A Geeky Goddess' Guide to Intuitive Eating, Balanced Hormones, and Transformative Sex, joins us to talk all about how women can take control and embrace...
#189 – A Sexplanation – Alexander Liu
Click to Listen on SubstackA Sexplanation Alexander Liu joins me in a conversation about his documentary “A Sexplanation”, which talks about his journey of coming out as gay in high school and his continued shame and disconnect over sex in his adult life. He talks...
#188 – When your partner has Alzheimer’s – Wanda Braveman
Click to Listen on SubstackWhen your partner has Alzheimer’s Wanda Braveman joins me today to share her personal story through her book, “White Knight: Living with Alzheimer’s Moment by Moment.” The book details her difficult journey with a partner who had been...
#187 -Considering Polyamory – Martha Kauppi
Click to Listen on SubstackConsidering Polyamory Martha Kauppi joins me in talking about her book, “Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients)” which acts as an aid for therapists and serves as a self-help manual for people who are considering...
#186 – Cyber Infidelity – Dr. Peter Kanaris
Click to Listen on SubstackCyber Infidelity Infidelity looks a lot more complicated in the cyber world. Dr. Peter Kanaris joins me to unravel what constitutes cyber infidelity, the recovery approaches involved, and ways to rebuild trust. Relationships in the Digital...
#185 – Cultivating Female Desire – Dr. Brandye Manigat
Click to Listen on SubstackCultivating Female Desire For all of the women who have ever wanted to feel sexy again; Dr. Brandye Manigat joins me in talking about cultivating pleasure and desire and reconnecting with one’s libido. She shares her insights and...
#184 – Anorgasmia in Women – Dr. Rachel Needle
Click to Listen on SubstackAnorgasmia in Women Dr. Rachel Needle joins me in a discussion about anorgasmia. We speak about how it manifests, what we can do about it, and if it’s something that can be turned around. We answer questions that most of us have asked at...
#183 – [Personal Story] Living with Lichen sclerosus – Tammy
Click to Listen on SubstackLiving with Lichen Sclerosus Tammy brings her journey with Lichen sclerosus and the experiences of many other women to light in this episode. We hear everything about what it’s like to live with Lichen sclerosus, its challenges, treatment...
#182 – When You’re the One Who Cheated – Tammy Nelson
Click to Listen on Substack When you’re the one who cheated Tammy Nelson, the author of the book When You’re The One Who Cheats, joins me to talk about cheating and infidelity from the point of the cheater. She offers her interesting insight on why people cheat, what...
#181 – When Sex Hurts – Dr. Irwin Goldstein
Click to Listen on SubstackWhen Sex Hurts Dr. Irwin Goldstein, the founder of field of sexual medicine, joins me in the conversation about female sexual pain. He drives the talk with tons of fascinating information about sexual pain, including what are the different...
#180 – Wheel of Consent – Dr. Betty Martin
Click to Listen on SubstackThe Wheel of Consent Dr Betty Martin, the author of the new book, The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent, is highlighting the importance of giving and receiving and maintaining that balance in sexual relationships. Today, we...
#179 – The Logic of Our Fantasies with Michael Bader
Click to Listen on SubstackThe Logic of Sexual Fantasies Michael Bader, the author of the book Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies joins me in a fascinating conversation about sexual fantasies. We get to hear his ideas about sexual fantasies and what they...
#178 – Holistic Approaches to Erectile Dysfunction – Dr. Tracy Gapin
Click to Listen on SubstackHolistic Approaches to Erectile Dysfunction Dr. Tracy Gapin, a board-certified urologist joins me today to talk about all things that constitute Erectile Dysfunction (ED). In this episode, you’ll hear a lot about various causes of ED,...
#177 – Urology for Women – Dr. Lamia Gabal
Click to Listen on SubstackUrology for Women Dr Lamia Gabal is a Urologist with a sub-specialty in Female Pelvic Medicine and Reconstructive Surgery. She talks about all kinds of concerns women bring to a Urologist, information about the treatment options, and how to...
#176: Trauma Sensitive Sex – Cass Biron
Click to Listen on SubstackTrauma Sensitive Sex Today’s episode covers trauma and how it can obstruct our ability to connect our body and arousal to our emotional and social being, and later obstruct the way of connecting intimately with our partner. Cass Biron talks...
#175 – Erotic Touch – Christina Antonyan
Click to Listen on SubstackChristina Antonyan joins me to offer her perspective on erotic touch and its significance in a relationship. We talk about the primal character of attuned touch and how to access it to enhance your sex life without any pressure of reaching a...
#174 – How Men Can Talk About Their Sexual Desires – Shana James
Click to Listen on SubstackHow men can talk about their sexual desires In this episode, Shana James shares how men can talk about their desires and their vulnerability toward having a thriving sex life. Shana’s drive to support and guide people into a healthier...
#173 – Self Love Secrets From a Bra Fitter
Click to Listen on SubstackSelf Love from a Bra Fitter with Kimmay Caldwell On this episode we hear from Kimmay Caldwell, an Undergarment Educator and Coach, whose 20-year-old self, working as a bra fitter, was struck by how people viewed themselves in the mirror. The...
#172 – Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse
Click to Listen on SubstackMale Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse To bring awareness and break the myth around male survivors of childhood sexual abuse, Dr. Stephen Braveman joins me today. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, an early pioneer in working...
#171 – God wants us to have pleasure – Rachel Alba
Click to Listen on SubstackGod Wants Us To Have Pleasure Our topic today is about getting closer to God through pleasure. I'm talking to Rachel Alba, who is a sex coach for people raised in Christian traditions that are struggling with shame or negativity around...
#170 – Orgasmic Expansion – Serena Haines
Click to Listen on SubstackOrgasmic Expansion Serena Haines joins me on this episode to talk about orgasmic expansion - a hybrid technique developed by fusing techniques she used working as a Somatic Sex Educator and Sexological Body Worker. The goal of orgasmic...
#169 – Out of Control Sexual Behavior in Women – Jessica Levith
Click to Listen on Substack Out of Control Sexual Behavior in Women Today’s guest Jessica Levith, is a Licensed marriage therapist from California and is here to talk about the “Out of Control Sexual Behavior Model” which is a view of compulsive, out-of-control...
#168 – Moving Past Shame – Tilly Storm
Click to Listen on SubstackMoving Past Shame Today’s conversation surrounds sexual shame and negativity and how that leads to a loss of desire and pleasure in sex. Tilly Storm, a sexual coach, helps such women whose desire has been lost due to the burden of shame and...
#167 – Awakened Intimacy – Maci Daye
Click to Listen on SubstackAwakened Intimacy Maci Daye joins us today to talk about awakened intimacy and share some of the practices she uses with couples. This episode discusses awakened intimacy in the context of mindfulness, being present and attentive during...
#166 – Communicating Sexual Desires and Boundaries – Yael Rosenstock Gonzalez
Click to Listen on SubstackCommunicating desires and boundaries In this episode, Yael Rosenstock Gonzalez talks all about how to understand and communicate your own desires and boundaries to your partner. Today’s topic of discussion lines up with the four pillars of...
#165 – Stepping Into Your Feminine Wild – Natalie Frasca Surmeli
Click to Listen on SubstackNatalie Frasca Surmeli is here today to talk about stepping into your feminine wild and what it means. This episode talks of awakening feminine desire and pleasure by slowing down and getting familiar with your own body. Natalie shares her...
#164 – Sexual Awareness – Kristen Lilla
Click to Listen on SubstackSexual Awareness In this episode we see how communication can affect a person’s sexuality and intimacy and how we can work towards that with our partner. Communication, vulnerability and how to have conversations with our partners Kristen...
#163 – Joyful Monogamy – Lynne Sheridan
Click to Listen on SubstackJoyful Monogamy Lynne E Sheridan, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist after being an international transformational trainer for 27 years is here today to talk about Joyful Monogamy from her book, “The Birds and Bees of Joyful...
#162 – Perinatal Mental Health & Sex – Emma Shandy Anway
Click to Listen on SubstackPerinatal Mental Health and Sex Emma explains what perinatal mental health is and includes thinking about pregnant, becoming pregnant and the intersection of this with your sex life. When sex becomes about having a baby, Emma points out that...
#161 – Menopause – Dr. Michelle Gordon
Click to Listen on SubstackMenopause After having gone through menopause and being surprised by the event, Michelle discusses her journey to finding out more about it and how to make it easier for other women. She shares her experience after taking the pill, then...
#160 – Sizzling Sex Across the Lifespan – Michael Castleman
Click to Listen on SubstackSizzling Sex Across the Lifespan Michael Castleman is a journalist that has been writing specifically about sexuality since 2005. He is also the author of Sizzling Sex across the Lifespan, covering the good bad and ugly bits about the...
#159 – Erotic Blueprints – DD Haeg
Click to Listen on SubstackErotic Blueprints On this episode we hear from DD Haeg who tells about the 5 Erotic Blueprints. She explains that this is a map/ language for how to turn each other on. They consist of the following: Energetics : Like to be teased, enjoy...
#158 – Disability, Sex, and Creativity – Kate Wolovsky
Click to Listen on SubstackDisability, Sex and Creativity On this episode, we learn how to maximize connection and pleasure if you are affected by physical barriers. Kate Wolovsky shares her story being affected with MS and still having a happy sex life despite this...
#157 – Body Image Liberation – KaRonna Lynn
Click to Listen on SubstackBody Image Liberation Liberation guide KaRonna Lynn, deals with body image obstacles. Liberation to KaRonna is about following what is liberating to you and not necessarily what society has defined as liberating. Most of her work is around...
#156 – The 5 Seasons of Connection – Leanne Kabat
Click to Listen on SubstackThe 5 Seasons of Connection On this episode, we hear about Leanne Kabat's personal journey. Faced with an illness and a young family, she found clarity and direction on how to choose to get out of chaos or conflict. She discusses what she...
#155 – Sex and the Developmentally Disabled – Richelle Fribotta
Click to Listen on SubstackSex and the Developmentally Disabled On this episode, you will hear from Richelle Fribotta. Richelle discusses her work teaching people with developmental and intellectual disabilities about sex. While there are many misconceptions around...
#154 – Masculine Sexual Leadership – GS Youngblood
Click to Listen on SubstackMasculine Sexual Leadership GS found his path after his own painful journey in his personal life and used this to create his book and help others. He references strong women and clarifies that these are women that have a clear understanding...
#153 – Love More, Fight Less – Dr. Gina Senarighi
Click to Listen on SubstackLove More, Fight Less From early on in her career, Dr Gina knew she wanted to help people with sex and relationships. Her work delved into the more uncommon areas such as discernment counseling, conscious uncoupling, and consensual...
#152 – Learning From LGBTQ Elders – Dr. Jane Fleishman
Click to Listen on SubstackLearning From LGBTQ Elders At age 56, Jane went back to finish her PhD and completed this at 62. She tells us this brought her into her own intellectually. She chose to focus on sexuality, as she found it to be the root of humanity's...
#151 – Blocks to Orgasm – Kim Akrigg
Click to Listen on SubstackBlocks to Orgasm Kim joins me on this episode to discuss blocks to orgasm. Her aim is to work with the subconscious mind to transform women. What Blocks Orgasm? She delves into the root of the problem being control over women even at an...
#150 – Talking To Your Kids About Porn – Braxton Dutson
Click to Listen on Substack How to Talk to Your Kids About Porn With children being exposed to porn as early as 10 today, Braxton, teaches us how to deal with pornography and kids. He defines porn as content that is intentionally created for a sexual purpose like...
#149 – The State of Our Union – Dr. Corey Allan
Click to Listen on SubstackState of Our Union Program Bringing personal life experience to the fore, Corey explains how the idea of ‘The State Of Our Union’ came about. On a weekly basis Corey and his wife used a text message reminder with 5 questions. This helped...
#148 – [Personal Story] A Triggered Life – Alba
Click to Listen on SubstackA Triggered Life Alba Soto is my guest on this episode. She shares her ‘triggered life’ experience, which still haunts her today. Her trauma began at the age of 3 at the hand of family members. Alba shares her addiction to masturbation as a...
#147 – Becoming Sex Positive
Click to Listen on SubstackBecoming Sex Positive Heather Shannon joins us on this episode to delve deeper into what being sex positive or sex negative actually means. In explaining what it actually means, Shannon relates it to a sense of freedom that you would find...
#146 – What We Can Learn From People With Spinal Cord Injury – Dr. Mitchell Tepper
Click to Listen on SubstackSex After Spinal Cord Injury On this episode, Mitchell joins us to discuss the impact of a spinal injury on sexual function. Having experienced this type of injury personally, he shares his journey to teaching people about sexual health...
#145 – Sensate Focus – Linda Weiner
Click to Listen on SubstackSensate Focus Exercises Sensate focus is a touching technique for couples or individuals that stimulates the primal part of the brain to enjoy a fully immersive experience with your partner. The technique starts with focusing on...
#144 – What is sex therapy like – Paula Leech
Click to Listen on SubstackWhat is Sex Therapy Like Paula shares that mindfulness plays a key role in sex therapy which ties in mind and body by focusing on sensate focus and behavior. The therapy is purely verbal and while it implies a physical element, that only...
#143 – Surrogate Partner Therapy – Brian Gibney
Click to Listen on SubstackSurrogate Partner Therapy What is Surrogate Partner Therapy Surrogate Partner Therapy offers a unique, tailored space in which to safely explore trust, communication, emotional intimacy, sensuality, and sexuality. Each of these pieces is...
#142 – Birth Control – Emily Aytes
Click to Listen on SubstackBirth Control On this episode, we hear from birth control expert, Emily Aytes. She uncovers some of the most common questions she receives. Interestingly, Emily shares that both young and older people ask her about birth control as it isn't...
#141 – Doing Non-Monogamy Well – Tristan Taormino
Click to Listen on SubstackDoing Non-monogamy well On this episode we dig into non-monogamy with Tristan Taormino. She discusses how the processing of both parties feelings is a crucial element to open relationships. Interestingly, she shares how working on yourself...
#140 – Bawdy Bookworms – Thien-Kim Lam
Click to Listen on SubstackBawdy Bookworms On this episode, we visit the topic of erotic fantasy in a box! Thien-Kim came up with the idea after selling sex toys at parties and one day finding herself aroused while reading a novel. She compares books today versus...
#139 – Safer Sex & STIs – Kayla Potts
Click to Listen on SubstackSafer Sex & STIsOn this episode, Kayla Potts educates us about STIs. She highlights that people often do not display symptoms when they have an STI and recommends testing as the only way to be certain of your status. From Kayla’s...
#138 – [Personal Story] Pelvic Organ Prolapse – Erin
Click to Listen on SubstackPersonal Story: Erin Underwood Once a casualty of prolapse, Erin is completely asymptomatic today. Having encountered this long before support groups and information was easily available, Erin was forced to learn how to help herself. After...
#137 – Dance, Flow State, and Sex – Ode Dixon
Click to Listen on SubstackFlow State and Dance3 years ago Ode discovered Flow - The Psychology of Optimal Performance and picked up dancing again after so many years of not dancing regularly. This reversed her stressed-induced high blood pressure diagnosis within...
#136 – Back into Dating – Marni Battista
Click to Listen on SubstackDating again Marni shares a great tip for figuring out what entering the dating world would be like. After gathering the stories we have about it in our minds, she suggests that we challenge the stories that could turn into fears or...
#135 – Optimal Sexual Experiences – Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz
Click to Listen on SubstackOptimal Sexual Experiences On this episode, Dr Kleinplatz introduces her findings around “optimal sexual experiences” based on actual interviews she performed. After much research, she shares these eight components couples need to have to...
#134 – Senior Sex – Joan Price
Click to Listen on SubstackSenior Sex Joan tells us that being a senior sex advocate is her third career. She lived as a high school English teacher until a car accident made her acutely aware of the privilege of being able to be and stay mobile. She tells us that...
#133 – Sexual Personality Types – Vanessa Marin
Click to Listen on SubstackSexual Personality Types Vanessa shares that she’s always working to make people’s sex lives better, but the idea of forming a personality test for sex began from hearing her clients talk about sex in very different ways, inspiring her to...
#132 – The Pleasure Gap – Katherine Rowland
Click to Listen on SubstackThe Pleasure Gap Katherine explains her initial interest in sexual pleasure gaps began with her journalistic coverage of the search for a female version of Viagra. She describes being intrigued by the prevalence of the notion that there is...
#131 – MS and Sex – Kimberly Castelo
Click to Listen on SubstackMS and Sex Living with MS Six months after her daughter was born, Kimberly stopped nursing, and soon went completely numb on the left side of her body. An MRI uncovered that she had 8 lesions on her brain, which she says led to a quick...
#130 – Sex and Orthodox Judaism – Dr. Shy Krug
Click to Listen on SubstackSex and Orthodox Judaism Diversity in Jewish Beliefs and Practices Dr. Shy describes Jewish law as a corpus of Jewish religious requirements. He explains that every aspect of life has regulations to help Jews proceed through life. He...
#129 – Sex during quarantine – Dr. Diana Wiley
Click to Listen on SubstackSex During Quarantine Jessa and Diana feel compelled to note that this episode of the Better Sex Podcast was recorded on June 1, 2020. Diana suggests that quarantine’s stress of forced togetherness is hard for many couples. But in addition...
#128 – ADHD and Sex – Dr. Ari Tuckman
Click to Listen on SubstackADHD and Sex - Dr. Ari Tuckman To reach an ADHD diagnosis, Dr. Tuckman reports that a 45-minute interview is required. With the media coverage of young boys with ADHD, Dr. Tuckman says that most clinicians can diagnose childhood ADHD...
#127 – Talking to kids about sex – Amy Lang
Click to Listen on SubstackTalking to Kids about Sex Amy noticed that even she was having trouble talking to her own child about sex, and she imagined it would be even more difficult for people without her work background. She discusses the difficulty of discerning...
#126 – [Personal Story] – Playing with Fire – Camille
Click to Listen on SubstackPlaying with Fire On this episode, guest Camille describes herself as a late bloomer that was always concerned about being romantically involved. She attributes some of her reticence to being raised in a family that didn't hug, cuddle, or...
#125 – Testosterone – Dr. Serena McKenzie
Click to Listen on SubstackTestosterone Dr. McKenzie explains both sexes produce testosterone however it’s much more prevalent and important in men. Serena informs us that puberty is driven primarily by testosterone. She notes that testosterone production increases...
#124 – Bridging Sex Therapy and Sexual Medicine – Dr. Pebble Kranz and Dan Rosen
Click to Listen on SubstackBridging Sex Therapy and Sexual Medicine Today's show is going to delve into talking about sex with both your therapist and your physician, potentially, and how that collaboration can benefit your struggles can make a difference. ...
#123 – 5 Core Conversations – Julie and David Bulitt
Click to Listen on Substack5 Core Conversations The Genesis of Five Core Conversations for Couples Julie explains that she met David as an 18-year-old at the University of Maryland, which led to a 33-year marriage. She and David celebrate the fact that their...
#122 – Feel Amazing Naked – Amanda Walker
Click to Listen on SubstackFeel Amazing Naked Amanda Walker is a health lifestyle coach whose focus is on helping women feel better naked. She created the Feel Amazing Naked Program and the Feel Amazing Naked Podcast. She is the creator and blogger at awalkmyway.com....
#121 – [Personal Story] Trauma as Tribal Initiation – Harriet
Click to Listen on SubstackTrauma as Tribal Initiation Harriet joins us in this episode and shares her how her childhood molestation led to compulsive eating, a fear of men, painful sex, and other hallmarks of traumatic experiences before she was taught to...
#120 – Pressures on Men – Dr. Corey Allan
Click to Listen on SubstackThe Pressures on Men in the Bedroom Dr. Corey Allan is a Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Professional Counselor with a PhD in Family Therapy. He has a private practice in McKinney, TX. With his wife, Pam, he hosts a weekly...
#119 – Guide to Wicked Sex – Jessica Drake
Click to Listen on SubstackGuide To Wicked Sex Jessica Drake is an adult film performer, writer, and director. She’s also a sexual health advocate and sex educator. Her onscreen work earned her numerous awards, including three AVN Best Actress Awards. Jessica is a...
#118 – Coming Out – Dr. Christopher Belous
Click to Listen on SubstackComing Out Dr. Belous is an Associate Professor, the Director of the Couple and Family Therapy Center at Purdue University Northwest, and a practicing therapist. He is a certified sex therapist and educator, a certified family life educator,...
#117: Medical Approaches to Women’s Sexual Concerns with Dr. Ashley Fuller
Click to Listen on SubstackMedical Approaches to Women's Sexual Concerns After accumulating nine years of experience working as an obstetrician and gynecologist at Swedish OB/GYN Specialists First Hill, Ashley Fuller transformed her practice into gynecology and sexual...
#116 – Sexual Authenticity – Domina Franco
Click to Listen on SubstackSexual Authenticity Domina Franco is a New York City based sex educator, coach, and writer. Franco completed her Masters in Human Sexuality at Widener University and helps clients of all genders and orientations clarify, explore and enhance...
#115 – Creating Relationship Satisfaction – Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh
Click to Listen on SubstackCreating Relationship Satisfaction Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh is a global thought leader in psychosexual therapy, couple counseling, and social psychology. A former member of the International Federation of Journalists, Dr. Sara combined her...
#114 – Permission; Finding Your Libido – Lauren White
Click to Listen on SubstackFinding Your Libido Lauren is a qualified sexologist and permission-granter who helps her clients reduce stress and reinvigorate their sex lives. Through her writing, online classes, and one-on-one sessions, she helps high-achieving,...
#113 – Premature Ejaculation and Treatment – Jeff Abraham
Click to Listen on SubstackPremature Ejaculation and Treatment Jeff Abraham is a man dedicated to doing the right thing. After winning a court case against Hyundai who asked him to actively discriminate against female and African American candidates in 1999, he moved...
#112 – Hip Injuries Can Cause Sexual Pain with Dr. Ben Domb
Click to Listen on SubstackHip Injuries Can Cause Sexual Pain Benjamin Domb, M.D. is the Founder, Medical Director, and Orthopedic Surgeon at American Hip Institute & Orthopedic Specialists. His group pioneers advanced, comprehensive, and non-invasive treatments...
#111 – Advocating for LGBTQ Youth in School – Michelle Belke
Click to Listen on Substack Advocating for LGBTQ Youth in School Michelle Belke currently works as a Mental Health School Counsellor at an independent school in Metro Detroit, Michigan. She has a part-time private practice in psychotherapy and sex therapy in...
#110 – Your Conscious Sexual Self – Melissa Fritchle
Click to Listen on SubstackThe Conscious Sexual Self My guest is Melissa Fritchle. She has developed The Conscious Sexual Self Workbook, she is a mindfulness meditation teacher, a Holistic Sex Therapist, is an educator and workshop leader, and that’s just a few of...
#109 – Sleep, Snoring and Sex – Lindsay Tucker
Click to Listen on SubstackSleep, Snoring, and Sex My guest today is Lindsay Tucker. She is the founder of artfulsleep.com and is on a mission for better sleep for all. When managing a snoring partner, she has a fresh perspective on the challenges that can arise. To...
#108 – Out of Control Sexual Behavior – Doug Braun-Harvey
Click to Listen on SubstackOut of Control Sexual Behavior My guest, the sexuality educator, author, trainer, and psychotherapist Doug Braun Harvey is here to share his knowledge on an important distinction in the sexual health realm: Out of Control Sexual Behavior...
#107 – Sexological Bodywork – Charlie Glickman
Click to Listen on SubstackSexological Bodywork My guest, Charlie Glickman, has been a sex educator for over 25 years. But it wasn’t until about 15 years ago that he realized the power of bodywork for managing and working through sexual shame. After solely...
#106 – Pelvic Floor Function after Childbirth – Kathe Wallace
Click to Listen on SubstackPelvic Floor Function after Childbirth My guest is the author of Reviving Your Sex Life After Childbirth, a pioneer for diagnosing and treating pelvic floor dysfunction, and also a practicing physical therapist who specializes in the pelvic...
#105 – Trans Sexualities – Lucie Fielding
Click to Listen on SubstackTrans Sexualities My guest Lucie Fielding identifies as a nonbinary femme. She is a Resident in Counseling, where she practices under supervision as a counselor in Charlottesville, Virginia. In addition to her professional education and...
#104 – Recovering your sexuality after cancer – Tara Galeano
Click to Listen on SubstackRecovering your sexuality after cancer My guest is a certified sex therapist and sexologist with a lot of important information to share on sex therapy for women with cancer. She is the creator of the class Rediscovering My Body After...
#103 – Finding Your Yes – Pamela Madsen
Click to Listen on SubstackFinding Your Yes Pamela Madsen joins me on this episode about the importance of finding your YES. Pamela explains the conditioning women undergo, which rewards them for saying no and ignoring their desires. By 50, Pamela had tried over...
#102 – Medical Treatment for Menopause – Dr. Rebecca Dunsmoor-Su
Click to Listen on SubstackMedical Treatments for Menopause Dr. Rebecca Dunsmoor works in Seattle, Washington as an OBGYN specializing in diagnosing and treating unwelcome symptoms of menopause. The North American Menopause Society acknowledges her as a certified...
#101 – [Personal Story] – Healing from Abuse – Toni
Click to Listen on SubstackHealing From Abuse My guest, whom I call Toni in this episode, is here to share a personal story of abuse and eventual transformation. Within the interview, she shares a lot of difficult episodes and traumas in her life in a brave and...
#100- Body Kindness – Rebecca Scritchfield
Click to Listen on SubstackBody Kindness My guest Rebecca Scritchfield is an exercise physiologist, nutritionist, author of Body Kindness and host of the Body Kindness podcast. She is a strong advocate for body positivity and healthy standards for eating, living, and...
#99 – From Sexual Madness to Mindfulness – Jennifer Gunsaullus
Click to Listen on SubstackFrom Sexual Madness to Mindfulness My guest is fresh off a book tour for her new book From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women. Her name is Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus and she is a sociologist and sex coach with a wealth of...
#98 – BDSM and Kink – Tamara Pincus
Click to Listen on SubstackBDSM and Kink My guest today is Tamara Pincus, who is an AASECT certified sex therapist, an advocate for BDSM and polyamory, and an overall celebrator of the diverse BDSM community. In this episode, she breaks down the fundamentals of BDSM,...
#97 – Sex and Chronic Illness – Dr. Lee Phillips
Click to Listen on SubstackChronic Illness and Sex My guest is here to talk about chronic illness and how it relates to sex. Originally, there wasn’t a lot of information or resources on the subject, so to fulfill this pressing need, Dr. Lee Phillips made it a point...
#96 – [Personal Story] – Orthodox Judaism and Sexuality – Matty
Click to Listen on SubstackOrthodox Judaism and Sexuality My guest, whom I will call Matty, grew up in an orthodox Jewish family. In this personal story, she shares her unique perspective on her upbringing and how it has affected her life from sexuality to marriage...
#95 – Sherrie Palm – Pelvic Organ Prolapse
Click to Listen on Substack Pelvic Organ Prolapse My guest is Sherrie Palm, who is the founder and CEO of the Association for Pelvic Organ Prolapse Support. In addition, Sherrie wrote a great book called Pelvic Organ Prolapse: The Silent Epidemic that delves deeper...
#94 – Dr. Jennifer Valli – Fetishes
Click to Listen on SubstackFetishes My guest today is Jennifer Valli. She has been on the show before to share her expertise and we’re very fortunate to have her back! Jenifer has a Ph.D., has 26 years of clinical experience in psychiatry, and is an experienced...
#93 – Taylor Pierce – Navigating Jealousy
Click to Listen on SubstackNavigating Jealousy My guest, Taylor Pierce, is a therapist at the Center for Couples & Sex Therapy in Portland, Oregon. She works closely with couples to explore issues in relationships and sexuality and really loves connecting and...
#92 – Matthias Rose – Ejaculatory Choice
Click to Listen on Substack Ejaculatory Control or Choice My guest is a repeat guest, which is a first for the Better Sex Podcast! His name is Matthias Rose and he is a Tantric teacher and healer. Matthias operates his practice out of Seattle and loves to connect...
#91 – Kara Haug – Fairy Tale Expectations
Click to Listen on SubstackHappily Ever After is a Fairy Tale My guest today is Kara Haug. She is the creator of Grace Unbound and is a practicing sex educator with a B.A. in Psychology and a Masters in Theological Studies, as well as a certificate in Sexual Health...
#90 – Susan Bratton – Sexual Vitality
Click to Listen on SubstackSexual Vitality My guest Susan Bratton has been called a ‘trusted hot sex advisor for millions’. She is a sex technique publisher, a celebrated speaker, educator, CEO and Co-Founder of Personal Life Media, and the list goes on and on about...
#89 – Dr. Justin Lehmiller – Sexual Fantasies
Click to Listen on SubstackSexual Fantasies and Eroticism I know I say it often, but this topic is one of my favorites. In this episode, I talk with Dr. Justin Lehmiller about the all-important topic of sexual fantasies. Justin is a celebrated speaker, researcher,...
#88 – Dr. Corey Allan – Desire Discrepancy Conversations
Click to Listen on SubstackDesire Discrepancy Conversation My guest is Dr. Corey Allan. He is a professional counselor and host of the podcast Sexy Marriage Radio, which centers on helping couples experience amazing sex within their relationships. He hosts the...
#87 – [Soapbox] – You are not broken
Click to Listen on SubstackYou are not broken I get back on my soapbox this week to talk about something I think is important. So many people feel broken or like something is wrong with them when they struggle with sex, but this is not true. All couples go through...
#86: [Reprise] Emily Nagoski – Come As You Are
Click to Listen on SubstackCome As You Are My guest today is the acclaimed author of the best selling, Come as You Are. Emily has been a sex educator since 1995, where she put her education to good use (psychology, cognitive science, and philosophy). Quickly, she...
#85 – [Soapbox] – Talking about Sex with your Partner
Click to Listen on SubstackTalking about sex with your partner How can you bring up your sexual concerns with your partner? On this episode, I focus Ton talking about sex with your partner when things are not going well. It can be uncomfortable to bring up sexual...
#84: Martha Kauppi – Sexual Desire Issues
Click to Listen on Substack Sexual Desire Issues My guest today is Martha Kauppi, who is a certified sex therapist and supervisor. Through her practice in Wisconsin, she focuses largely on relationships and how they can affect sex, and vice versa. In addition, she has...
#83: Dr. Kelifern Pomeranz – Erectile Dysfunction
Click to Listen on SubstackErectile Dysfunction My guest is Dr. Kelifern Pomeranz. She is a licensed clinical psychiatrist, a sex therapist, and an overall expert on arousal disorders and more. She has a practice in Silicon Valley and is here to talk about erections:...
#82: [Soapbox] – Exploring Eroticism
Click to Listen on SubstackExploring Eroticism The topic today is eroticism, which is our unique fingerprint of what turns us on. It's a set of things or the theme of things that really arouses us - that we find highly interesting and erotic. We all have the things...
#81: August McLaughlin – Girl Boner
Click to Listen on SubstackGirl Boner – A Story of Empowerment My guest is August McLaughlin. She is a celebrated health and sexuality writer, the creator of Girl Boner, wrote a book with the same name, and is a fellow podcaster! As she states during the talk, her...
#80: [Soapbox] – Desire Discrepancy Issues and Strategies
Click to Listen on SubstackDesire Discrepancy may or may not be a term that you've heard. This is where two different people want different amounts of sex. There's a discrepancy between your desire and your partner’s. This is universal. It happens all the time, and it...
#79: Dr. Sharon Cohen – Feminine Energy
Click to Listen on SubstackAll about Feminine Energy My guest Sharon Cohen, PhD has been working in the mental health field for over 25 years. She has also specialized in love and relationships for the past 7 years, but as she states during the interview, she has...
#78: [Soapbox] – Sexual Satisfaction Scale
Click to Listen on SubstackBecause there have been so many great guests and conversations on the show, it has been awhile since we’ve done a soapbox episode. In this soapbox, Jessa talks about measuring sexual satisfaction in a way that is meaningful to you. While...
#77: How Childbirth Affects Men – Dr. Amy Gilliland
Click to Listen on SubstackMen and childbirth My guest is Dr. Amy Gilliland, Ph.D., ADVCD/BDT(DONA), CSE (AASECT). She is a doula, an AASECT certified sexual educator, and her work has been extensively shared and published in many prestigious academic journals on the...
#76: Sexuality and Spirituality – Tina Schermer Sellers and Kamara McAndews
Click to Listen on SubstackIntimacy that Includes Mind, Body, Heart and Spirit My guests are Tina Schermer Sellers and Kamara McAndrews, and together they are sharing the important work of Gina Odgen who passed away last year. Gina herself was a sexual educator and...
#75: Feminine and Fulfilled – Shazia Imam
Click to Listen on SubstackFeminine and Fulfilled My guest Shazia Imam works with women who are looking to access and unlock their deepest desires and power. She is very skilled at inspiring women to chase their desires once they have figured them out. Shazia does...
#74: Yes Brain in the Bedroom – Heidi Crockett
Click to Listen on Substack About Heidi Crockett My guest is Heidi Crockett. She is a highly qualified sexual health educator and speaker on stress and sex. She is also the author of The Neuroscience of Dating and Caregiver Stress: Neurobiology to the Rescue. In...
#73 – Jim Fleckenstein – Consensual Non-Monogamy
Click to Listen on SubstackConsensual Non-Monogamy My guest is Jim Fleckenstein. He is a coach and educator on sexuality. He is also a researcher who focuses predominantly on non-exclusive relationships and how they affect the individuals involved. He is an expert in...
#72: Amy Lang – Signs of sexual abuse in children
Click to Listen on Substack Signs of sexual trauma in children My guest for this episode is Amy Lang: she has been teaching sex for over 25 years now with an emphasis on teaching kids about sexuality in an effective, healthy way. Amy has a Master’s degree in Applied...
#71: Dr. Sheila Addison – Transgender/Cisgender Relationships
Click to Listen on Substack Dr. Sheila Addison: when your partner is transgender This episode is a wealth of information. It is delivered by the expert guidance of guest Dr. Sheila Addison and covers many important elements of transgender and cisgender relationships,...
#70: DJ Burr [Personal Story] – Recovery Saved My Life
Click to Listen on SubstackIn this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, it is my honor to welcome DJ as he shares his personal journey with you. Having people come in and share the details of their life is one of the best parts of this platform! DJ is a therapist who...
#69: Dr. Lori Brotto – Mindfulness and Sex
Click to Listen on SubstackMy guest is Dr. Lori Brotto. She works at the University of British Columbia Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology. Lori has a Ph.D. in psychology with an emphasis in psychophysiology. She is a practicing psychologist and also spearheads a...
#68: Rachel Keller & Beverly Dale – Sex Positivity in the Christian Faith
Click to Listen on SubstackSexual Health within the Christian FaithStarting with a little background on Rachel, she is a psychotherapist who works with clients who have experienced trauma and in sexuality in general. When considering her certification, she has been...
#67: Alice Little – Legal Sex Work
Click to Listen on SubstackAn Intimate Conversation with a Legal Sex WorkerMy guest, Alice Little, works at the Moonlight Bunny Ranch in Nevada, which is a legal brothel and where she has worked for the last three years. And as she states during the interview, before...
#66: Pam Costa – Women Talking About Sex
Click to Listen on SubstackThe importance of talking about sex My guest, Pam Costa, spent a decade-and-a-half at both Apple and Facebook. After having a life-changing experience with a sex therapist during a session, she realized that a transition to sex therapy was...
#65: Lara McElderry – Prioritizing Intimacy
Click to Listen on SubstackMy guest Lara McElderry knows all about the struggles of being married to a surgeon: the crazy hours, the extensive amount of time spent in training, and the toll it can take on any relationship dynamic. And in this episode, she offers up...
#64: Stephanie Buehler – Fertility Issues and Sex
Click to Listen on Substack My guest on today’s show is Stephanie Buehler. She’s a licensed therapist, AASECT certified sex therapist, a graduate of UCLA and Pepperdine (among others), and a best-selling writer who has authored many enlightening books on...
#63: Ellen Dechesne – Third Stage Sex
Click to Listen on SubstackAs my guest Ellen Dechesne relates during this episode, sex in your later years, what is defined as the ‘third stage’ of your life, is a very important and relevant topic to consider. A self-proclaimed late bloomer for hitting sexual...
#62: Mariah Freya – Conscious Sex
Click to Listen on SubstackMy guest is Mariah Freya, the founder of Beducated.com, which is a website and repository of online courses, resources, and tantric-infused concepts for more conscious sex. And today, Mariah stops by to share with you and demystify Yoni and...
#61: Dr. Valerie Rein – Patriarchal Stress Disorder
Click to Listen on SubstackMy guest for this episode is Dr. Valerie Rein. She is an author, psychologist, and in addition, founded Her Genius, Inc. Through her work, she has coined the term Patriarchal Stress Disorder to capture and reflect upon the historical dynamic...
#60: Dr. Mark Schoen – SexSmartFilms
Click to Listen on SubstackMy guest is Mark Schoen. He is a prolific sex-education filmmaker--he has made over 50 of them!--and still very productive and skilled at his important work in the industry. As his focus attests, educating the general public about sexual...
#59: Carolina Vee [Personal Story] – Permission to Love Herself
Click to Listen on SubstackMy guest for this episode is Carolina Vee. She has an extremely important story to tell and we are so privileged to have her on the show. As a victim of sexual abuse, it took a long time for Carolina to untangle the knotted aspects of her...
#58: Steph Auteri – A Dirty Word
Click to Listen on SubstackMy guest Steph has been writing about sexuality for more than fifteen years. She generally writes about sex education, rape culture, and perceptions regarding female sexuality. Her book A Dirty Word: How a Sex Writer Reclaimed Her Sexuality...
#57: Stan Tatkin – We Do
Click to Listen on Substack Stan Tatkin is the founder of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy®(PACT). He has worked with couples for more than fifteen years in his clinical practice. He teaches, he counsels, he writes, he does it all! Stan has authored a few...
#56: Amanda Testa – Feminine Fire
Click to Listen on SubstackMy guest Amanda Testa is an expert in sex and love. She is the founder of Find Your Feminine Fire, which is a program that combines concepts from neuroscience and tantra. Utilizing her coaching experience and knowledge in the field, she aims...
#55: Lisa Diamond – Female Sexual Fluidity
Click to Listen on SubstackToday, Lisa Diamond tells us about her past and present research on sexual fluidity. Lisa M. Diamond is Professor of Psychology and Gender Studies at the University of Utah. Her research focuses on the development and dynamic expression of...
#54: Emily [Personal Story] – Asking for What You Want
Click to Listen on SubstackBi-Sexual Awakening As early as 10 or 11, Emily felt that she was bi-sexual. Listen as she describes her evolution of feelings, relationships, and sexual interactions. Coming of AgeAt the age of 16, Emily felt ready for sex. Listen as she...
#53: Daniela Wittmann – Prostate Cancer and Sex
Click to Listen on SubstackMy guest Daniela Wittmann is an expert on prostate health and urology. In fact, she is a very prominent member of the Prostate Cancer Survivorship Program; in addition, she is an associate professor of Urology and Social Work in the...
#52: Jessa Zimmerman [Soapbox] – Changing Your Mindset
Click to Listen on Substack In this episode we talk about changing your mindset about sex and about relationships. This episode will challenge your ideas about roles in a relationship and describe a list of new rules to follow that may replace some assumptions that...
#51: Emily Nagoski – Come As You Are
Click to Listen on SubstackThe Motivation for Come As You Are My guest today is Emily Nagoski, the acclaimed author of the best selling book, Come as You Are. As Emily relates, the motivation to write her best-selling book has a very prominent beginning. It was the...
#50: Dr. Beverly Whipple – Female Orgasm, The G Spot, and Ejaculation
Click to Listen on SubstackHow Dr. Beverly Whipple Started Studying SexDr. Whipple got her start while she was teaching nursing students. A sexual topic was broached that she didn’t have concrete answers for, and so she gave the inquisitive student a rain check. She...
#49: Stephen [Personal Story] – Tantra for Healing
Click to Listen on SubstackIt is time for another personal story. As always, on my show, I like to shine a spotlight on important stories from people who need to tell them. These personal stories offer fresh perspectives on subjects that should be discussed, listened...
#48: Ian Kerner – She Comes First
Click to Listen on SubstackThe True Meaning of ‘Cliteracy’Starting with a discussion of his book, She Comes First, Ian Kerner’s coined word ‘cliteracy’ is given more thought and emphasis. Overall, the term encapsulates the aim of his bestselling book. He relays to...
#47: Jessa – Expectations are the Problem
Click to Listen on SubstackThe Sexual Avoidance Cycle Revisited: The Dangers of ‘Sexpectations’ Today we are going to revisit the Sexual Avoidance Cycle; more specifically, we are going to talk about the Disappointment Phase of the Cycle in order to pinpoint the...
#46: Dr. Tina Sellers – Sex, God, and the Conservative Church
Click to Listen on SubstackOvercoming Sexual Shame In her work, Sellers places considerable emphasis on reversing sexual shame in her clients’ and readers’ minds. Growing up in a sexually-open environment, with parents who were very transparent about sexual function,...
#45: Pia [Personal Story] – Parent of a Trans Teen
Click to Listen on SubstackParenting a trans teenPia is the mother of a transgender child (now twenty years old) who underwent a successful physical transition into his male self. Pia’s love for her kid and overall emotional resiliency shines through when she recounts...
#44: Paul Joannides – The Guide to Getting It On
Click to Listen on SubstackThe Guide to Getting It On: A Self-Published PhenomenonIf there was ever an excuse to self-publish a book, The Guide is a great example of how successful one can be using the practice. After Paul had taken nine years to finish the first...
#43: Jenny Berk – Body Image
Click to Listen on SubstackOur Body Image: Is it Environmentally Reinforced? To start this episode, Jenny shares her fascination for the “etiology” (origin) of our body image. That is, when did we first become self-conscious about our bodies? Jenny states that she did...
#42: Suzanna Mathews – Cougar-Cub Relationships
Click to Listen on SubstackUsing the Term “Cougar”To start this episode, Suzanna talks about the negative connotations surrounding the title “cougar.” There are considerable allusions to predatory behavior when the term is brought up. Of course, Suzanna was well aware...
#41: Peggy Bennett – Matchmaking
Click to Listen on SubstackBasics of Matchmaking SchoolListen in as Peggy describes her learning experience at the Matchmaking Institute of New York. What do you need to pay attention to when matchmaking? Peggy details that listening carefully during one-on-one...
#40: Jessa Zimmerman [Soapbox] – Sexual Avoidance Cycle
Click to Listen on SubstackThe Sexual Avoidance Cycle is far more common than many would believe, and I talk about this situation, what causes it and perpetuates its continuance. I also answer the first of my listener questions during this “Soapbox” episode where I...
#39: Heather [Personal Story] – Sexual Trauma & Awakening
Click to Listen on SubstackA personal story of trauma and awakening Listen to the story of Heather and her traumatic experiences which led to her transformative journey in her own life. She grew up feeling like an outsider with feelings of inadequacy. Hear Heather...
#38: Dr. Steven Davidson – Pornography
Click to Listen on SubstackPornography - the good and the bad Listen to the discussion of the role of Erotica and Pornography in a relationship and the positive and negative impacts. Defining Pornography What is the definition of pornography? Listen as Steven...
#37: Lara Currie – Difficult Conversations
Click to Listen on SubstackDifficult conversations as an opportunity? Challenge as an opportunity? Listen as Lara describes the context of conflict. She discusses how the components of assumption, judgment and expectation lead to a reaction. Tune in to the Body’s...
#36: Rebecca Coffey – Evolution and Sexual Behavior
Click to Listen on SubstackEvolutionary Psychology and Sex In this episode, Rebecca tells us about Evolutionary Psychology, examining our roles and interactions through a biological and historical lens. Listen in as she compares our human proclivities to our great ape...
#35: [Personal Story] Marina – Journey of Liberation
Click to Listen on SubstackA personal story of sexual liberation In this episode, I talk to Marina, who shares her personal journey from struggles with her self-image and a painful first sexual experience, to finally feeling liberated with a happier sex life. The...
#34: Katie Zvolerin – Adam & Eve
Click to Listen on SubstackHistory of Adam & Eve, A Sex Toy Retailer Listen in as Katy discusses how Adam & Eve started out. She mentions it was just a thesis requirement to complete the founder Phil Harvey’s Master’s Degree. Being part of the hippie...
#33: Dr. Laurie Mintz – The Orgasm Gap
Click to Listen on SubstackBecoming Cliterate Dr. Laurie shares the reason behind why she wrote her book, Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How to Get It. As a professor to over 150 students a year, she shares the influence her undergrad students...
#32: Beth Liebling – Darling Way
Click to Listen on SubstackThe Store: Darling Way In this episode, Beth talks about how she started and founded the Darling Way after her 22-year marriage ended with a divorce. She shares how her shop started after an awful experience buying a lingerie for herself....
#31: [Personal Story] Anca – A Recovering People Pleaser
Click to Listen on SubstackRecovering from people pleasing Today's guest is sharing her story of claiming her story, rewriting her story, figuring out which parts she wants in, and which parts no longer serve her. She says it has been a struggle to understand where...
#30: Tamara Powell – Polyamory
Click to Listen on SubstackPolyamory - one version of consensual non-monogamy. There are certainly plenty of people that choose an open relationship of one sort or another. Even though they're committed to each other, but by agreement, they are non-monogamous. Often...
#29: Maegan Megginson – Female Sexual Pain
Click to Listen on SubstackWelcome to Better Sex. Today we are covering an important and pervasive topic. We're going to talk about female sexual pain, a woman's sexual pain. Way too many people struggle with painful conditions and most of them don't know what to do...
#28: Brodie Welch – Holistic Approaches to Libido
Click to Listen on SubstackToday’s episode features Brodie Welch, a Chinese Medicine expert who helps us to recognize that from a Chinese medicine perspective, everything is energy, and sexual energy is an important subset of our total sum of energy reserves. We cover...
#27: [Personal Story] Jenn – Trauma & Infertility, Fortunate Healing
Click to Listen on SubstackToday’s personal story features Jenn, a 47-year-old woman who has undergone more than her fair share of stressful events during her life. From being molested as a child and losing her virginity to date rape, to facing repeated infertility...
#26: Melissa Walker – Healing Our Sexual Fragmentation
Click to Listen on SubstackCorrection: I mis-spoke in my introduction to the episode. Melissa is not yet certified as a sex therapist. I apologize for any confusion. Sexual Fragmentation - what is it and how does it show up in sex therapy? Tune in today to learn about...
#25: Amanda Laird – Menstruation and Sexual Health
Click to Listen on SubstackAmanda’s interest in menstrual health began as early as her childhood. Today she passionately shares her wisdom about how women should have knowledge of how their bodies work and, with this, feel empowered to talk about menstruation and sex...
#24: Stacy Fisher-Gunn – The Importance of Self-Care
Click to Listen on SubstackWhat is self-care? Tune in to hear Stacy’s definition of self-care: what it looks like and how it relates to all areas of life, not only with regards to physical health but mental and emotional health as well. Stacy reveals what percentage...
#23: Dr. Serena Fiacco – Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy
Click to Listen on SubstackWhat is pelvic floor physical therapy? Dr. Fiacco kicks off by telling us exactly what pelvic floor physical therapy is; explaining about the basic musculature of the pelvic area and what kind of health issues can stem from this region,...
#22: Dr. Renee Flores – Sex and Sexuality in the Elderly
Click to Listen on SubstackSex in the elder years In today's episode, we look at sex and sexuality in the elderly. It is a common misconception that people are no longer sexually active as they grow older and Dr. Flores will be sharing her thoughts on this with us so...
#21: [Personal Story] Nancy & Frank – A Perfect Storm
Click to Listen on SubstackFrank was raised in a conservative home that placed a noose of fear and shame around sex. After a decade of fantasizing about sex, Frank married in his late 20’s and recalls the awkwardness about it. Sexuality was a very taboo topic in...
#20: Dr. Stephen Snyder – Why Social Media is Making Sex Obsolete
Click to Listen on SubstackSocial Media is making sex obsolete. Dr. Stephen Snyder shares a shocking statistic that reveals the drop in the sexual interaction between people. He unpacks his very interesting theory on why this is. In this episode, you will hear about...
#19: Robin LaCross – Talking to Kids About Sex
Click to Listen on SubstackHow do you talk to kids about sex? In today’s episode, Robin LaCross and I discuss talking about sex to kids. Robin shares the childhood experiences that drew her to her purpose. She reveals the impact of a book about natural family...
#18: Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh – A New Perspective on Passion
Click to Listen on SubstackHow important is passion? The place of Love across cultures In this episode of Better Sex, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh unwraps her theory of love in two categories: submergent and emergent. She describes the difference between the two and how...
#17: Jennifer Valli – Men’s Sexual Concerns and Solutions
Click to Listen on SubstackMen's sexual health concerns often stem from the pressure of expectations In today’s episode, Jessa and Jennifer Valli talk about men’s sexual health concerns and dysfunctions (men being defined as people who have been raised male and who...
#16: Heather Edwards – Vino and Vulvas
Click to Listen on Substack Vino & Vulvas - A community conversation about sex Today I am delighted to have Heather Edwards, who has been a pelvic physical therapist for 14 years and is currently completing the University of Michigan’s Certificate Program in Sex...
#15: [Personal Story] Alli – Sexual Trauma
Click to Listen on Substack Triumph after sexual trauma This is the first in a new series of episodes where I will be talking to real people sharing real stories. On this episode, I am joined by Alli, a recovering overachiever who has learned to let go of society's...
#14: Marc Gilmartin – Out of Control Sexual Behavior & Erotic Conflict
Click to Listen on SubstackOut of control sexual behavior or sex addiction Are you concerned about your own sexual behavior in relation to your values?Do you wonder if your sexual behavior is out of control? Are you or someone you love worried that you have a sex...
#13: Jeni Dahn – Energy and Sex
Click to Listen on SubstackI'm excited about the topic for this episode. We're going to be talking about both Masculine and Feminine Energy. I'm talking about this because it's relevant to sex and to our lives in general. We all have masculine and feminine energy,...
#12: Jill Angelo – Genneve, Support for Women in Midlife and Menopause Solutions
Click to Listen on SubstackI'm revisiting a topic that we talked about in a previous episode, which is menopause This time it's not so much from the medical standpoint or a provider's standpoint. It's more about the invisibility that tends to happen in that time of...
#11: Tammy Senn – Postpartum Sexuality, Listen to Your Body
Click to Listen on SubstackWell, the last episode of my podcast was about pregnancy and sexuality, and it seemed to make sense to go right into the next obvious topic, which is postpartum sexuality. Talk about a lot of change to adjust to! You've got not only the...
#10: Aleece Fosnight – Pregnancy and Sexuality, How to Enhance and What to Avoid
Click to Listen on SubstackToday's topic is pregnancy and sexuality. It's just not talked about very often, and if you have been pregnant or if you have been a partner with somebody that's pregnant, you may have noticed that the doctors often don't ask or talk about...
#9: Anna Joy Reedy – Platonic Cuddling and Healing Touch Therapy
Click to Listen on SubstackI give a lot of thought to what makes a great sex life. What makes us sex life healthy, what makes it enjoyable for people, what makes it fulfilling? When I consider the kinds of things that matter, I think about the ability to slow down and...
#8: Jessica Butts – Do Opposites Attract? How Different Personality Types Affect Your Sex Life
Click to Listen on SubstackI often hear from clients about how much they struggle when they're different from each other. In the beginning, we were attracted to this other way of being. We were interested because this person was so different from us. But what ...
#7: Dr. Stephanie Ring – Menopause: Understanding the Inevitable
Click to Listen on SubstackAs I was putting the podcast together, I put out a little survey to my subscribers asking what kinds of topics people wanted me to cover. While it is not the most frequent presenting concern in my practice, the most frequent request I got in...
#6: Sallie Foley – Sex Therapy: What is it?
Click to Listen on Substack So why is today's show about sex therapy? Well, because I'm a certified sex therapist and I know that a lot of people listening don't know what that means. There is confusion about what sex therapy is and what a sex therapist does. And...
#5: Matthias Rose – Tantra, A Beautiful Integration of Personal Strength, Sexual Power, and Emotional Connection
Click to Listen on SubstackTantra offers a lot of gifts. It can help you be present. It can increase your sense of connection. It can lead you to a greater understanding of who you are in your physical body. It can be extremely hard to get out of your own head....
#4: Dr. Joe Kort – “Is My Husband Gay?” | Male Sexual Fluidity
Click to Listen on SubstackWhat are we talking about? Men who have sex with men, have done it in the past or who are interested in it, but still identify as straight or mostly straight. However, their behavior or their interest makes their partner wonder about their...
#3: Parke Burgess – The Virus Known As Shame
Click to Listen on SubstackShame is an emotional response which is completely natural, and you should never feel there is something the matter with you for which you should be ashamed. Our natural response to shame is to close in, to try and hide as we attempt to...
#2: Edy Nathan – Sexual Grief, Sex, and Life
Click to Listen on SubstackSexual changes throughout life are not always looked at as moments of grief. But, they certainly are and even if they seem small, they can add up to bigger, more powerful moments. During this engaging conversation about grief and how it...
#1: Sar Surmick – Sexual Consent, Did They Say “No?”
Click to Listen on SubstackConsent is all over the news right now. Or, at least, lack of consent is all over the news. From politicians to movie stars, people are being accused of sexual assault and harassment. This makes the conversation about consent all the more...
#0: Jessa Zimmerman – Welcome to Better Sex
Click to Listen on Substack Jessa Zimmerman welcomes you to the new show and gives you some background on who she is and why she started the podcast. Welcome to the very first episode of Better Sex. I'm so glad you're here. The format of the show in the future is...