Welcome to your quiz: Why don't I have desire?
The strength of your intimacy directly impacts the strength of your relationship. But over time, most couples will struggle with differences in desire, creating stress, pressure, and even avoidance. How are you going to feel as close and connected to your partner as possible if you don't find a way to desire intimacy?
That's why I've take what I've learned about desire for intimacy in my years of clinical practice as an AASECT certified sex therapist and created this quiz to help you understand why you may be struggling with lack of desire. You will get your results and suggestions about how to improve via email, as well as ongoing information and ideas about improving your relationship and creating your best possible intimate life.
This quiz is designed for people that are in a relationship and who want to look at the interactions between themselves and one specific partner.
Please provide your email address below to receive a detailed copy of your results as well as tips for improvement related to the quiz.
Once you finish the quiz, detailed results will be emailed to you. Providing your email address here will subscribe you to my mailing list. You can unsubscribe at any time later. I hope you stick around, though! I work hard to make it worth your while.
Are you orgasmic with your partner?
Does your partner get distant, grumpy or sad if they don't get enough sex?
How much does sex mean one particular act or outcome for you and your partner?
How often do you and your partner create the opportunity to be physical together?
Does your partner care about your pleasure in sex?
Does it feel like's it okay to stop a sexual encounter at any point?
Have you believed something must be wrong with you, your partner, or your relationship when sex hasn't been working so well?
Is it hard to be present in sex?
How often do the two of you fight about sex?
Have you ever been orgasmic?
Do you and your partner communicate about what you want and don't want in sex?
Does your partner struggle with any issues around arousal, erection, orgasm or other sexual function?
Do you think you need to do and enjoy certain things?
Do you worry you don't know what you're doing?
Does your body respond the way you want?
Do you know what you need to get aroused?
How often do life's responsibilities make it hard to relax and show up for sex?
How often are you having sex out of obligation?
Do you ever get in the mood once you get going?
Have you had changes in the way your body responds sexually that makes sex harder?
Are you self-conscious or negatively judgmental about your body?
Do you struggle with anxiety, depression or any other psychological concern that makes it hard to want sex?
Do you get (or take) the time and touch you need to get aroused?
Have you had any disability, illness, injury, or surgery that affects what you can do sexually?
Have you had sexual trauma in your life that still gets in your way of enjoying sex and feeling totally comfortable?
Does your partner focus on the frequency of sex in your relationship?
Do you have pain with sex?
Do you get enough foreplay?
Are you afraid to start something you may not be able to finish?
Has your partner made comments about your body or your sexual performance that made you feel bad?
Does it feel like sex can fail? That if it doesn't go a certain way, it's a problem?
Do you ever have thoughts that something is wrong with you because you don't have enough desire?
How often does sex seem to end badly?
Do you feel discomfort or shame about sex or your sexuality in general?
Does your partner do things sexually that you don't like?