Sex & Intimacy Blog

The Sexual Avoidance Cycle: Why Sex Starts Feeling So Difficult in Relationships Back in 2018, I self published my book, Sex Without Stress: A Couple’s Guide to Overcoming Disappointment, Avoidance, and Pressure, because I wanted to capture a pattern I was seeing in almost every couple who came...

Why Won’t My Wife Have Sex With Me? 5 Mistakes That Push Her Even Further Away If you’ve found yourself typing “why won’t my wife have sex with me?” into Google or ChatGPT, chances are you’re hurting. Maybe you feel rejected. Lonely. Confused. Maybe you’ve tried talking about it, being patient,...

How Can I Find Online Therapy Services for Couples Dealing With Libido Mismatch? If you’re searching for help with libido mismatch, you’re probably not at the beginning of this problem. You’ve already tried things. You’ve had conversations. Maybe you’ve argued. Maybe you’ve tried to initiate more,...

Low Libido in Young Women: What’s Really Going On (And Why You’re Not Broken) If you’re a young woman struggling with low libido, it can feel confusing at best and deeply unsettling at worst. You might be wondering why you don’t want sex the way you think you’re supposed to. You might be...

Why Won’t My Boyfriend Have Sex With Me? It’s a painful question to even think, let alone type into Google. Why won’t my boyfriend have sex with me? For most women, this question doesn’t just stay practical. It quickly becomes something much more personal. Is he not attracted to me anymore?Is...

When “Not In Love Anymore” Feels Like the Only Truth There is a moment many people don’t talk about out loud. You look at your partner, or maybe you think about them when they are not there, and something feels different. The intensity is gone. You feel like roommates. The pull is quieter. You may...

Why You Feel Bored in a Relationship (And What It Actually Means) When a Relationship Starts to Feel Flat Many people quietly wonder if something is wrong with their relationship when they start to feel bored in a relationship. They may worry that they're not in love anymore. At the beginning,...

Why Do I Feel Lonely in My Relationship? If you have found yourself thinking, Why do I feel lonely in my relationship, you are not alone. In fact, one of the most heartbreaking things I hear from clients is this: “I have never felt as lonely as I do lying in bed next to my partner.” That moment...

When Marriage Feels Like Roommates: What It Means and How to Reconnect If your marriage feels like roommates, you are not alone. it does not mean you are doomed to a dead bedroom. Many couples quietly reach a point where the relationship runs efficiently but feels emotionally flat. You share a...

Why Don’t I Want to Have Sex Anymore? (And Why It’s Not Your Fault) If you have been quietly asking yourself, why don’t I want to have sex anymore, you are probably not asking from a calm and curious place. You are likely asking from worry. From guilt. From a sense that something has shifted and...

How Can Therapy Help Improve a Dead Bedroom Situation? It often starts quietly. Maybe you notice it one night as you roll over in bed — the familiar warmth between you replaced by space that feels heavier than it should. Maybe it’s the conversations you’re not having. Maybe it’s the way you both...

Sexually Avoidant Behavior: 5 Signs You’re Avoiding Sex Because It Feels Like a Lose–Lose Situation Sexually avoidant behavior is often misunderstood as a lack of desire or a relationship problem rooted in disinterest. In reality, it’s frequently a response to a dynamic where sex has started to...