Is it hard to be present in sex?
Have you had sexual trauma in your life that still gets in your way of enjoying sex and feeling totally comfortable?
Do you get (or take) the time and touch you need to get aroused?
Do you know what you need to get aroused?
Have you had any disability, illness, injury, or surgery that affects what you can do sexually?
Do you think you need to do and enjoy certain things?
Do you have pain with sex?
Are you self-conscious or negatively judgmental about your body?
Do you ever get in the mood once you get going?
Do you struggle with anxiety, depression or any other psychological concern that makes it hard to want sex?
Have you ever been orgasmic?
Do you get enough foreplay?
Does it feel like sex can fail? That if it doesn't go a certain way, it's a problem?
Do you ever have thoughts that something is wrong with you because you don't have enough desire?
Does your partner struggle with any issues around arousal, erection, orgasm or other sexual function?
Have you had changes in the way your body responds sexually that makes sex harder?
How often does sex seem to end badly?
Do you worry you don't know what you're doing?
Are you orgasmic with your partner?
How often do you and your partner create the opportunity to be physical together?
Does your partner focus on the frequency of sex in your relationship?
How much does sex mean one particular act or outcome for you and your partner?
Have you believed something must be wrong with you, your partner, or your relationship when sex hasn't been working so well?
Does your body respond the way you want?
How often do life's responsibilities make it hard to relax and show up for sex?
Does your partner care about your pleasure in sex?
Does it feel like's it okay to stop a sexual encounter at any point?
How often are you having sex out of obligation?
Do you feel discomfort or shame about sex or your sexuality in general?
Are you afraid to start something you may not be able to finish?
How often do the two of you fight about sex?
Do you and your partner communicate about what you want and don't want in sex?
Does your partner get distant, grumpy or sad if they don't get enough sex?
Has your partner made comments about your body or your sexual performance that made you feel bad?
Does your partner do things sexually that you don't like?